invitation wording for no gifts
We are older so we don't need gifts but we have chose a charity that we would like people to donate to instead of giving a gift how do you word that without sounding rude?

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Posted On: Jan 16, 2012 at 6:42 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Married: 03/31/2012
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Jan 16, 2012 at 6:58 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Easy - you don't include it on the invitation. If you want people to have that info, you tell your parents and friends informally and maybe put it on your info Web site.

Hayley C™
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Jan 16, 2012 at 6:58 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I agree with Kara.

NowMissyL
Married: 05/25/2012
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Jan 16, 2012 at 7:07 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Agree with Kara.

ashlee
Married: 01/28/2012
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Jan 16, 2012 at 7:08 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
first of all -- registries and / or gifts are never mentioned on the wedding invitation. assuming you mean website or via family -- which is fine... simply say, in lieu of gifts the couple respectfully requests a donation in their name to any of the following charitable organizations....

Married: 03/11/2012
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Jan 16, 2012 at 7:29 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Well here is what we put on a little cute card : People are asking for our gift registry, well honestly speaking we decided not to have a gift registry. however there will be a wishing well at the venue in which we would love to recive your envelope with a monetary gift enclosed. after paceing your envelope in the wishing well please make a wisk for us for it to come true.

Married: 03/11/2012
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Jan 16, 2012 at 7:31 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
some may not agress and that is fine. remember it is your Day. Everybody does things diffrent and i don't see nothing wrong with asking for Monetary gifts. I've been to plenty weddings and I never got offended.

Married: 03/11/2012
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Jan 16, 2012 at 7:32 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
by the way your getting married on my birthday #TEAMCANCER!!!!!
Jan 16, 2012 at 7:46 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It's wrong. Period. (Asking for monetary gifts....cute card or not.) Word of mouth is the best way to get the word out that you do not want gifts, but if someone DOES want to honor your marriage, they can donate to a charity.


Married: 05/12/2012
Jan 17, 2012 at 7:33 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Which part are you saying is wrong celia? The actual putting in the envelope and asking, or the wanting mone vs gifts in the first place?

Because if its the want money in the first place part I 100% disagree. It depends on the guests and the norms of the people attending. Italian weddings up here are 100% cash gifts, there is a GIANT card box and everyone brings cash. It is very normal here to bring cash instead of gifts and I have never ever given a wedding "present". I have discussed this issue with many people in my life, friends, co-workers and family, and I think only 1 person has expressed that they thought it was weird to want money not gifts, and they were 90. lmao

Married: 03/11/2012
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Jan 17, 2012 at 1:50 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Jennifer N. I agree i have never and i'am not going to start now. besides no one i invited to" MY" day had or has a problem they understand and that is what it is. tuff cookies to who don't like it. people get so caught up they for get on what they feel is rite or what is wrong. if your comming to my wedding you already know what the deal is.

krisalicious
Married: 04/28/2012
Jan 17, 2012 at 1:57 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I agree it depends on your culture....but I think usually when people have to ask whether or not something is a bad idea, it usually means that it is. If it's ingrained in your culture, like Franchesca and Jennifer are saying, you don't think twice about it.

I do think there's a difference between having a card box and telling people outright to bring money so they can add to it. But that's just me.

I think the other thing is that charities can be oddly controversial. Just know your audience. I agree with the girls who said word of mouth/website would be your best bet here, and leave all mention off gifts out of the invitation.

Personally- I would still create a small physical registry. Registries really help out your guests who want to give you a boxed gift....it's almost more for them than it is for you. But again, that's just me.

Married: 06/09/2012
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Jan 17, 2012 at 2:01 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Amen @Kris S

Married: 06/02/2012
Jan 17, 2012 at 2:30 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I have been wondering the same thing. We have both been married before and have homes. We really don't need any small appliances. We have been trying to figure out how to discourage people from getting us a bunch of gifts we don't need. However, we will have a wishing well at the reception. Whatever is given we will appreciate, even if it's another toaster, lol!!
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