Help - No Kids allowed at wedding but people are bringing them anyway!!!

This scares me, too. We are only having our nieces and nephews, and one young cousin at our wedding. I'm not sure how that will go over, but the friends and few family members with children will just have to be okay with it.

It is my boyfriends sisters wedding soon and just found out my son cannot attend that day by the way he's 11 because no kids allowed, my boyfriends 5 kids are going obviously as two are bridesmaids, that's fine but I have been told no friends kids or anyone else can come so my son cant. My point is we are a family and do everything together we to are engaged and really think this is unfair, they all go to same school so I will have to explain why my son hasn't gone to. What are your views ?????? should I be treated as friend like everyone else?

We're totally in the same boat, and I feel your frustration! Don't people know the rules of etiquette? Aren't they aware that weddings are not free-for-alls where you can bring whoever you want? If money was no object, all our extended families, their kids, and their kids' kids would all be invited. Unfortunately, that is not the case. Our reception is adults only, and we realize that will alienate A LOT of people, especially OOT guests. We're looking into some sort of childcare service or putting those guests in contact with childcare services (it would be in a room near our reception). But we both have HUGE families, lot of friends, parents friends, etc., and it's impossible to accommodate everyone. I know it sounds a bit heartless, but we have to draw the line somewhere. I sometimes wish we could've stuck with our original plan - a teeny, tiny intimate wedding. Wouldn't have had to worry about inviting anyone from OOT - just immediate family and a few of our closest friends. So much less hassle!

Our website states "adults only," so I hope guests actually SEE that and process it!

Good luck to you! I'm keeping my fingers crossed!

View Quoted Comment Well to be honest, if they feel like they have enough money to fly their kids to a wedding, then they should have enough money for someone to watch them. Whether it's their in laws or friends they are close with in the area. If you give them enough notice, there shouldn't be any excuse.