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Would you go to a bachelorette party tomorrow if you were not able to be vaccinated?

Layla, on September 17, 2021 at 3:12 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 13
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My best friend’s bachelorette party is tomorrow. I planned the whole thing, there are 11 people total and we’re taking a limo to 2 vineyards and then to a restaurant for dinner. I think everyone is vaccinated except for me. I can’t get the vaccine yet (doctor’s instructions). I thought Covid cases would have diminished by now but our area is still a ‘high transmission’ area, like most of the U.S. is, so I don’t know what to do. I would feel really bad for backing out the day before, but I also don’t feel safe going. I wish I thought of this sooner and required a negative Covid test but now it’s too late. Most likely no one is going to wear masks because we’re drinking on the limo and the places we’re going are literally meant for eating and drinking. Does anyone have advice on 1) whether or not to go 2) how to tell my friend I can’t go if that’s what I decide? The other option is I could drive my own car and just meet them at the vineyards where there is outdoor seating.

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Latest activity by Tiger Bride, on September 20, 2021 at 12:04 PM
  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I personally would go and take my own precautions. I would carry hand sanitizer and also wear my mask in public when not eating and drinking. Have you not been anywhere in public since the pandemic started? I think that you will be fine.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    This doesn’t sound like something I would be comfortable with if I wasn’t vaccinated. Honestly all of the social activities I participate in these days require everyone to be vaxxed so frankly I would be less comfortable going knowing there was someone unvaxxed among us too, so it works both ways.


    I would just be honest about it. The bride may be disappointed, sure, but if she’s anything other than kind about it, she is both not a great friend (wanting you in a situation you’re not comfortable in?!) AND likely not covid-conscious enough for me to want to be around anyway!! Since it would be a last minute cancel, I would absolutely still pay your share, as it’s likely already been planned for accounted for, and as long as you may it clear you’re still covering your costs , if anyone has an issue with this ….they’re part of the issue.
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  • L
    Layla ·
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    I planned it and collected the $ from everyone, so I would give my debit card to my mom and ask her to pay the bills with it (my mom was invited lol). And that's true, the risk goes both ways & they might not want me there anyway bc of the vaccinations

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  • Cece
    Super November 2022
    Cece Online ·
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    Everyone can have an opinion on this, but the bottom line is: this is completely up to you. Only you know your comfort level. In the end, you have to do what is best for you and your health. Listen to your gut, not to other people. Because you are the one that will have to deal with the consequences of whatever decision you make.
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  • Allie
    VIP November 2021
    Allie ·
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    Can you get a rapid test? You can usually have those results within 30 minutes and it might put your mind at ease if you decided to go. If you don't feel safe going, then you shouldn't go. If you feel safe with the precautions, such as taking your own car, staying in outdoor areas and masking whenever possible, then I say go for that if nobody else has any issue with you being unvaccinated.

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  • JA
    Devoted March 2022
    JA ·
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    You have to choose your own risks, but if you do decide to go, definitely tell the others you are not vaccinated and ask if they are okay with you coming.

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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah Online ·
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    I agree with this. Everyone on here can tell you what they would or wouldn’t do, but none of that will tell you how you should feel about your specific situation. If you do decide not to go simply tell the bride that while you’d love to join, you are just too worried about current covid numbers in your area while being unvaccinated.
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  • Cool
    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    I definitely would not attend in that scenario.
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  • Cool
    Super July 2020
    Cool ·
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    Agree with this. If I was in a packed limo I’d expect to be told someone isn’t vaccinated and that they will be wearing a mask at all times.
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  • M
    Dedicated October 2021
    Michelle ·
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    If your doctor is telling you not to get vaccinated, that tells me you have something medically that likely also puts you at higher risk for Covid complications. A large-scale study was just published showing that unvaccinated individuals are 11x more likely to die from Covid. Keep in mind that the Delta variant is still replicating/shedding in the respiratory passages of people who are vaccinated as well (not as much as someone who is unvaccinated( but higher than previous strains), which means even those in the limo with you will pose a risk to you. If I were in your shoes, I would not attend for my own personal safety, along with the safety of others. Another option - could you ask the bride if everyone else could also get tested before the party? That would significantly reduce the risk to everyone, including you. If it’s a no-go, just be honest with the bride. A true friend will understand and support you, even if she is disappointed.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    I agree with this. Unless you can get the vaccine before the party, I would not feel comfortable attending.


    Covid is not going anywhere unfortunately because so many people don’t think it’s serious.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    I’m a car or winery together? Nope. I know people who are now getting Covid AFTER getting vaccinated. Not vaccinated? Don’t go. Your health is more important.
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  • T
    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    I'm unvaccinated and I would go (my bach party was a year ago and we did similar activities), but I don't have any health conditions that put me in a high risk group. It sounds like you do, so that's a bit different. If the other girls are vaccinated then they're fine...this is about your health and what you're comfortable with. I am a bit confused as to why this didn't come up until the day before, though.


    What did you end up doing?
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