My best friend’s bachelorette party is tomorrow. I planned the whole thing, there are 11 people total and we’re taking a limo to 2 vineyards and then to a restaurant for dinner. I think everyone is vaccinated except for me. I can’t get the vaccine yet (doctor’s instructions). I thought Covid cases would have diminished by now but our area is still a ‘high transmission’ area, like most of the U.S. is, so I don’t know what to do. I would feel really bad for backing out the day before, but I also don’t feel safe going. I wish I thought of this sooner and required a negative Covid test but now it’s too late. Most likely no one is going to wear masks because we’re drinking on the limo and the places we’re going are literally meant for eating and drinking. Does anyone have advice on 1) whether or not to go 2) how to tell my friend I can’t go if that’s what I decide? The other option is I could drive my own car and just meet them at the vineyards where there is outdoor seating.
I personally would go and take my own precautions. I would carry hand sanitizer and also wear my mask in public when not eating and drinking. Have you not been anywhere in public since the pandemic started? I think that you will be fine.
This doesn’t sound like something I would be comfortable with if I wasn’t vaccinated. Honestly all of the social activities I participate in these days require everyone to be vaxxed so frankly I would be less comfortable going knowing there was someone unvaxxed among us too, so it works both ways.
I would just be honest about it. The bride may be disappointed, sure, but if she’s anything other than kind about it, she is both not a great friend (wanting you in a situation you’re not comfortable in?!) AND likely not covid-conscious enough for me to want to be around anyway!! Since it would be a last minute cancel, I would absolutely still pay your share, as it’s likely already been planned for accounted for, and as long as you may it clear you’re still covering your costs , if anyone has an issue with this ….they’re part of the issue.
I planned it and collected the $ from everyone, so I would give my debit card to my mom and ask her to pay the bills with it (my mom was invited lol). And that's true, the risk goes both ways & they might not want me there anyway bc of the vaccinations
Everyone can have an opinion on this, but the bottom line is: this is completely up to you. Only you know your comfort level. In the end, you have to do what is best for you and your health. Listen to your gut, not to other people. Because you are the one that will have to deal with the consequences of whatever decision you make.
Can you get a rapid test? You can usually have those results within 30 minutes and it might put your mind at ease if you decided to go. If you don't feel safe going, then you shouldn't go. If you feel safe with the precautions, such as taking your own car, staying in outdoor areas and masking whenever possible, then I say go for that if nobody else has any issue with you being unvaccinated.
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I agree with this. Everyone on here can tell you what they would or wouldn’t do, but none of that will tell you how you should feel about your specific situation. If you do decide not to go simply tell the bride that while you’d love to join, you are just too worried about current covid numbers in your area while being unvaccinated.
If your doctor is telling you not to get vaccinated, that tells me you have something medically that likely also puts you at higher risk for Covid complications. A large-scale study was just published showing that unvaccinated individuals are 11x more likely to die from Covid. Keep in mind that the Delta variant is still replicating/shedding in the respiratory passages of people who are vaccinated as well (not as much as someone who is unvaccinated( but higher than previous strains), which means even those in the limo with you will pose a risk to you. If I were in your shoes, I would not attend for my own personal safety, along with the safety of others. Another option - could you ask the bride if everyone else could also get tested before the party? That would significantly reduce the risk to everyone, including you. If it’s a no-go, just be honest with the bride. A true friend will understand and support you, even if she is disappointed.
I'm unvaccinated and I would go (my bach party was a year ago and we did similar activities), but I don't have any health conditions that put me in a high risk group. It sounds like you do, so that's a bit different. If the other girls are vaccinated then they're fine...this is about your health and what you're comfortable with. I am a bit confused as to why this didn't come up until the day before, though.