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Devoted August 2020

Wish you would have postponed a big wedding?

Niki, on July 11, 2020 at 10:24 AM Posted in Married Life 2 32
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Has anyone gotten married during this pandemic and wished they would have waited to have their dream wedding? We are getting married August 23rd and are seriously considering canceling our dream wedding and just having a small ceremony with a big party/reception later.


We’ve hired a DJ and have a photo booth but what fun is it if everyone has to wear a mask & social distance? Not trying to be a Debbie Downer here - just wanted to get some feedback.

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  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
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    My wedding was pre-Covid. However, my wife and I had this exact conversation the other day. We had our dream wedding last October and couldn’t imagine it any differently. So we said if we were in the current Covid wedding situation, we would cancel our big wedding, get married in a small ceremony with immediate family and close friends, and have our dream wedding/reception later.
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  • Niki
    Devoted August 2020
    Niki ·
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    Hi Meghan,
    Thank you so much for your feedback. This is so helpful!
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Us too. I’ve been sharing all the Covid restrictions with my hubby and it would have killed our wedding events. It would have been like throwing money away. We would have eloped (or only invited my mom & his brother), then done a vow renewal in 2021.
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  • D
    Savvy May 2021
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    We were supposed to get married this September but after all the back and forth we decided to postpone until next spring to maybe give our wedding a second chance of some type of “normal”. If things are still bad we are just going to do something small and get married. I thought about throwing away the big celebration out of stress and doing something this year but it didn’t seem right. My venue wasn’t allowing dancing so that and family members not feeling comfortable were my decision makers. I know other brides have made it work so it’s up to you and how you want your day or how you can make your day feel special with all this going on.
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  • Niki
    Devoted August 2020
    Niki ·
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    Thanks for you feedback! It’s very helpful!!
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  • Niki
    Devoted August 2020
    Niki ·
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    Thank you so much Denise. I think we will probably postpone until things are somewhat normal. We want everyone to feel comfortable and to be able to greet and hug our guests. And it just doesn’t seem like it will be fun and enjoyable. I’m sorry you’re going through this too! Hang in there. Best wishes to you! ❤️
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  • Shanice
    Just Said Yes February 2021
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    Hey, we had the same back and forth issues. Very frustrating and discouraging. Im glad I get to read that I'm not the only one going through this covid rollercoaster *eye roll emoji*

    any who, we decided to have a small ceremony this year; bc we don't wanna wait to get married anymore. Furthermore, were still planning to have our dream wedding in February of next year! I agree, there's no point of having a whole venue, music and all and you can't just be normal.

    Another option is, cut the number go guests - get a huge AirBNb that is cheaper than a venue, Big backyard and party on with those you trust and will celebrate with you!

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Champion March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    You’re welcome. It’s not an easy decision for couples in 2020!
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  • Niki
    Devoted August 2020
    Niki ·
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    Hi Shanice,


    Thank you so much for your feedback! I’m so sorry you’re going through this as well and it helps to hear I’m not the only one. This pandemic sucks and a member of our wedding has COVID & can’t travel. I know we will keep our date but make it a very small party. I hope everything works out for you! ❤️
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  • Maria
    Dedicated August 2019
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    Me and my hubby got married this past August and we had the discussion of what we would have done if we were supposed to get married this year instead. We would have 100% postponed it. You deserve to have everything the way that you imagined it ,so if that means waiting a little while longer then so be it. You don't want to look back and regret anything. If you feel like going through with it now will cause you any type of regret then wait.

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  • Monica
    Devoted August 2021
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    We were/are August 7. We decided to postpone the big party until August 2021 and have a small legal ceremony on our original date. I didn't want to risk anyone getting sick or the fear of getting sick, on top of having to wear masks, no dancing, distancing etc. It just would have looked a lot different than I've dreamed about for so long, so for us it was worth it to postpone. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I know how hard it is!
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  • Molly
    Dedicated October 2021
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    So I have had to postpone a large wedding twice now! Our original date was March 28th of this year and we postponed it to October 31st. Due to not knowing when Phase 4 will happen in MA we decided to make the 10/31 date an elopement ceremony and then have a large reception next year (10/15/21). I can empathize! My thought is i can wear my wedding dress twice Smiley smile !!

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  • Niki
    Devoted August 2020
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    Thank you so much Monica! I’m with you and think it’s in everyone’s best interest to postpone the celebration until things are better. I wish you all the very best! ❤️
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  • Niki
    Devoted August 2020
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    Hi Molly,


    So sorry you had to postpone twice! I love that you’re keeping your new wedding date and celebrating next year. And what a positive attitude! Yes, you sure can wear your dress twice! Thanks for your feedback! Wishing you all the best!
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  • Aurora
    Dedicated July 2020
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    We are getting married next weekend. Our venue is working with us and we cut our guest list down to 1/3. I was down with eloping but couldn’t convince my FH and we want to start having kids soon so putting things off (like a reception next year) or going for it now with modifications was a hard decision.


    We are doing photo booth (open air) but we have props per table, spent $100 on it from Etsy. No one will touch each other’s props unless they want to. We have a DJ too and a live musician. The DJ, yeah I don’t know what it will be like with dancing, we have an amazing playlist but we’ll see.
    I’ll let you know how it turns out if I can remember. We have run into logistical issues and additional stress but nothing we can’t work out. Things like we have put 5 people (all comfortable with each other) at a table that would normally fit 12. There are pros and cons, but we are excited about the intimacy of the smaller sized wedding in aftermath. It doesn’t hurt the cost is way less either.
    Certainly if you choose to do what actions vibe with you, there will be no regrets. Either way you marry your best friend. If I can remember I’ll let you know how it went.

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  • Kellyann
    Dedicated July 2020
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    I'm moving forward with my wedding that is next Sunday. I'll have around 30 guests. I'm trying to seat mainly households together. I added 1 additional table to be safe. Everything has to be outside to not have to wear masks. My selfie station, guest fingerprint paper deal will be inside. I ordered masks. Ill have lawn games out. Hand sanitizer everywhere.
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  • Niki
    Devoted August 2020
    Niki ·
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    Hi Aurora,


    Thank you so much for your feedback and positivity. I’m staying positive through it all and it really helps to hear from someone else who is also positive. Yes, if you remember, please let me know how it all turned out. If not, that’s ok. I hope your wedding is amazing, which I know it will be. Best of luck to you!!!!
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  • Kate
    Devoted August 2020
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    I am moving forward with my wedding on August 14th. I honestly can’t even stand the thought of postponing for a second time. I cannot have the wedding looming over me for another year. We have accepted the situation, and know that quite a few people won’t come. I think it’s different for everyone though. If you don’t feel heavily burdened by the thought of postponing, and you can’t have the day you envisioned without doing so, then maybe it is best. I just know that plan wasn’t for me. I also think it’s easier for those who are already married and have had their dream weddings to say that they would have postponed if they were in this situation. It is much different when you are actually in it. Maybe they would have- but it isn’t that simple. Best wishes to you as you weigh out your options, and I hope whatever you decide to do brings you peace!
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  • Niki
    Devoted August 2020
    Niki ·
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    Hey Kellyann,


    Thanks for the helpful feedback. Could you tell me what the guest fingerprint paper deal is? It sounds very cool!
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  • Niki
    Devoted August 2020
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    Hi Kate,


    Thank you so much for the helpful feedback. I’m so happy y’all are going forward and I can’t stand having to postpone again! I know your day will be amazing and I also wish you the very best!
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