Why so many parties...

Because people tend to want to honor and celebrate the soon to be newlyweds. We did not have an engagement party. We will have a shower and/or bachelorette parties if someone offers to host them, if not, we're perfectly fine with skipping them. We will be hosting a rehearsal dinner, which will be super casual and nothing to feel overwhelmed over.

View Quoted Comment Ohhhhhhh.... I guess I didn't realize that some of those we're generally thrown by other people. So I had it wrong. That makes sense. I was like do I really have to plan all of these events? LOL!

I think we might just have a bachelor/bachelorette party combined at a lake, Just to spend some time with our friends and family.. Not for any traditional reasons. If we have a Rehearsal dinner it won't be anything big since we don't want to spend even more money that we don't have.

How else is Hallmark going to make money? Kidding. I think it's too much. We are not married yet. No engagement party. I know we are having a very informal RD, no plans for bach party, don't know about a shower.
Besides the wedding anything we do will be casual. We've been together nearly 13 years, 14 on our wedding day. And being a bride/bride couple some traditions don't work.

The only party I have had so far is a surprise one from my bridesmaid, they took me out the day after FH proposed. We had a blast!
Not planning on having engagement party or any showers, it’s just too much.

I'm not much of a party person, so I don't mind skipping these altogether! Personal preference, though!

View Quoted Comment I’m the same way, if some is throwing it fine but I am not really going out of my way to make sure these parties are done. I already have enough stress with making sure this wedding is what we want it to be

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The only one of these optional parties that you would be responsible for hosting is the rehearsal dinner, and that's only if you choose to have a rehearsal. Throwing showers or other gift giving events for yourself is generally considered rude.

My two friends treated me & my mom to a bridal shower lunch. Only party I had! Didn’t miss any of the others.

I went with everything but an engagement party
I think it's just because people get so excited about weddings and they do each technically have their own purpose

Literally just a wedding for us 😂

I come from a big family that makes EVERYTHING a party. So we are having all the “parties”. Minus the engagement party because we have a short engagement. Which they replaced with a day after wedding bbq/brunch.

We didn’t have an engagement party, I know my girls will be throwing me a bridal party/luncheon and bachelorette but we won’t be doing a rehearsal dinner. We are having a DW and we don’t want to put out the extra cost for it. We’ll be staying at an all-inclusive so we’ll probably go have dinner at the buffet or one of the restaurants, however, if you seat over 10 together they consider that a party so we’ll sit separately but together. I only care about the wedding day anyway.

Yeah, I'm just getting married party for me lol

I think, honestly, they're all...stupid.. and I dont want any of those, at all. Well be having a rehearsal dinner the day before the wedding bc we feel like we should feed people after driving so far to our house to rehearse the wedding (which I think is a must. I've seen wedding where they wing it... NOT good, everyone's lost lol) Anyway, we dont even have a registry. I dont want people to buy us things. If they want to bring a card to the wedding, go for it, but no gifts. And dont even get me started on bachelor/bachelorette parties...

I’m actually not having any... my friends have asked about the bachelor/bachelorette party, and that'll probably be the only one we are having... I don’t and my family don’t have money like that lol... we also live in different states so it’s harder..

None of them are required so you'd only get overwhelmed if you choose to have them all. We are only having a couples wedding shower because my cousin is throwing it. We don't have a bridal party so no reason for a rehearsal dinner and we didn't have a desire to have any of the other "parties." Just do the ones you want or none of them. Wedding planning is overwhelming enough lol

Yeah most of these have been different ways other people want to celebrate an engagement. We did not do an engagement party and I told my bridesmaids I don’t want a shower. We’ll do a small bachelorette party and I think FH is going to have a Bachelor party, but we’re not doing anything fancy and we’re paying our own way for those. As far as a rehearsal dinner it’s only going to be the people who need to know what’s going on and it’ll most likely be casual. Most of them are hosted by other people so don’t expect them except the rehearsal which is your responsibility.

We did not have an engagement party but are having bachelorette/bachelor party and I'm having a bridal shower. The only thing I was overwhelmed with was the uncertainty of dates so I can make sure to be available. Now my parties are squared away just not sure when the FH bachelor party will be but that is his thing so no stress on me

My fiancé and I are thinking about skipping engagement party. It can be overwhelming!