Who pays for Bachelorette activities?

Really depends on the group honestly. The bride should go expecting to pay for everything the bridesmaids pay for. Never assume anyone will pay for anything for you! I've been to destination bachelorette parties where everyone pays for everything themselves, including the bride, since the overall cost is pretty high for everyone. But I've also done a bachelorette brunch where we all split the cost of the bride's meal and a night out where each of us paid for a drink for the bride throughout the night. As a bridesmaid, I always offer to pay for something for the bride myself, no matter what the rest of the group decides.

For my bachelorette next month we're doing a destination weekend trip and we're all splitting the cost of the airbnb. My BMs told me they'll take care of all the decor and alcohol, and even though we pay for meals and drinks for each other on a regular basis, but I'm not going there thinking they'll pay for anything for me.

Agreed with PP that it all depends on your group. I’ve been to bach weekends where the us as bridesmaids pay for everything, including the brides dinners, drinks etc.
For mine, the girls split the cost of our Airbnb and I wasn’t included, so they paid my part. But dinners, drinks, activities, we all pay for our own!
I will be paying for one breakfast for everyone + everyone a bottle of champagne, but everyone will be paying for their own things, including me!

It depends on the group, like the previous posts have said. I thought I had to pay but my MOH told me no. I pushed, because I feel bad the money. She insisted that I am not paying. In my case, I'm very lucky. I would talk to your group about.

Echoing everyone else— really depends on the group. I’ve never been to a bachelorette where the bride paid for things. My bridesmaids paid for all my expenses (flights, hotel, meals, drinks, etc). However, my husband did treat everyone to a really nice brunch one day of the bachelorette.

Mine split all the costs

I've never been to a destination bachelorette, and I think it's more common for a bride to pay her own way for those. With local bachelorettes, in my experience the bride never pays for things. My bridal party planned my bachelorette party without me knowing anything (I didn't even know the date until day of). They wouldn't let me pay for anything, even though I tried. I was able to negotiate buying 1 bottle of wine that we drank together in the hotel room. They wouldn't let me pay for any part of dinner or the hotel for the night.

Local parties, or those for an afternoon or an evening, either a small group of hosts, or everyone there, chip in to pay the bride's cost.

Thanks Everyone!!! My bridal party is surprising me with a local one (I know that much lol) and I know the date because I have kiddos but other than that they want everything to be a surprise! I was just curious on if I should be saving money to spend on that weekend. Lol I plan to anyways but wanted to see what everyone else’s experience was

My bachelorette was dinner and a night of bar hopping. The girls did split my dinner, but we all took turns buying drinks the rest of the night. No other costs.

I would always be prepared to pay for your share of things, but it is likely that your bridal party is planning on factoring a share of your costs into each girl's share, especially if you're having it locally as that greatly cuts down on a lot of expenses. For a destination, that varies a lot more. I personally think it's a lot to ask bridesmaids to pay for their own flights, their share of an Airbnb or hotel AND a portion of the bride's as well, but have seen it done. It also kind of depends on what the overall expenses of being in your wedding are - if your bridesmaids have to travel extensively, stay in a hotel for multiple nights, pay for their dresses/hair/makeup and split the cost of a bridal shower, I would be uncomfortable asking them to cover my costs for a bachelorette party as well.