Getting married and having a wedding was the beginning of everything. Then it becomes a domino effect of the house, baby, new job, newer house, more babies, vacation, etc... your life, pretty much. I am completely lost yet focus now. Got married, graduated with a master's degree, looking for my career job but want to have kids soon. I'm in my 30's and want it all but baby steps. I actually feel ready (emotionally & mentally now) compared to a few months however, we're also looking for a place of our own. We've been fortunate to rent with our in laws for a way cheaper price. Apparently, many newlyweds have been doing this in our area. We have our own space on the third floor. At this point, we would like to stick it out here UNTIL I get my job, financially stable, and be in our long-term home. What's tricky is that we live in tech city - it's slowly but surely becoming an expensive place to live, even outside of downtown.
We did make some progress and now have a realtor, broker and just ran up credit reports. We would barely be able to make payments. We've decided for now to hold off and keep in touch with the real estate agent with that particular community, They plan to build more in 2021. I really love the community and area.
I know it doesn't matter what people think but I HATE when people ask about the home process. Some people I intuitively feel like they care and some, just wanna know and for some reason, get all competitive about (which I don't understand bc everyone is on their own path). I have a friend my age (we got married around the same time) who was really KEEN on my husband and I getting an apartment and just gives us financial and home advice. His sister in law does this too. Maybe they mean well but discouraging people to buy a house or encouraging people to get an apartment just seems so bold - they don't know our finances and values. I just HATE having to talk about it because it's such a process, I don't need unsolicited advice, and it's just a BIG complicated process- home buying.
My husband said something that struck me too - money will come but the time and youth will not. We're both ready. My cousin said her and her husband just bought their first home once their daughter turned one. Another friend got her first home when she was 6 months pregnant. They said it was worth the wait. I just don't wanna hear from other people that we don't have the house first and that we need that first before a baby, etc...
RANDOM - also any advice with baby planning? pre-natals? I just started membership at a pilates/yoga place and am getting in shape and healthy.