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Champion June 2019

When did you stop stressing about your wedding (that already happened 😅)

Gen, on November 25, 2019 at 10:41 AM Posted in Married Life 0 10

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This is really dumb and pathetic I feel hahaha, but I’ve been married almost 6 months now and I feel like I’m still stressed about the wedding...? This past weekend I literally had 2 wedding-related nightmares (like “it’s the night before the wedding and everything is going wrong!” type nightmares...) and then woke up so confused? Lol.

I feel like I’m also still constantly thinking about it, going over different aspects of it in my head, thinking of how much “better” I could’ve done things if I could do it over again, I should’ve got x y and z pictures, I should’ve had my brother speak at the reception instead of the rehearsal dinner, etc...
It’s so frustrating because I feel like I should be way past thinking like this? To be clear, it’s not like this is all-consuming or anything, but it’s just a nagging feeling sometimes and I can’t believe I can’t stop STRESSING about something that happened 6 months ago.
Gahhh 🤦🏻‍♀️ Am I alone in this? How long did it take you all to stop stressing and obsessing about things after the fact ?

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Latest activity by Gen, on November 26, 2019 at 1:26 PM

Super October 2019
Maria · on November 25, 2019 at 11:25 AM
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I totally get how you are feeling so you are not alone! I think when something is the center of our thoughts for so long during the planning process it's hard to let it go just like that. The other variable is that there is no "second chance" for most people - this is the only time in your life you will have all these people you love all alive and together in one space. Definitely hard to process! Maybe write down all the things you LOVED about your wedding that you wouldn't change so that you can focus on that...did you have some killer chicken to eat, or your Grandma wear her special purple shawl, or your hubby sing your first dance song to you a little off key?
I've found that planning new things help release the wedding thoughts since my mind may not register it is over haha. Planning renovations for our new house, my parents' 40th anniversary party next year, and even small things like having friends over for an Ugly Sweater Party.
I haven't been married as long as you but I have definitely noticed the wedding thoughts have subsided each week. Hugs and best of luck getting over the "post wedding blues!"
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on November 25, 2019 at 11:33 AM
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Thank you!

The thing is I don’t even feel “sad” about it anymore, I’m just annoyed by it more than anything? Lol. I’ve been pretty focused on other things for a while now, I just feel like it’s still this nagging thought that my mind keeps wandering back to... almost like I spent so much time thinking and stressing about it that it’s hard to stop? We had such a wonderful day and I’m so grateful for that. In all honesty it was as perfect as it could’ve been and I wouldn’t have changed a thing. But still I can’t stop thinking about it 🤦🏻‍♀️
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Master May 2019
Chandra · on November 25, 2019 at 11:40 AM
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I've had some crazzzyyyyyy nightmares about the wedding going wrong since the wedding 6mo ago too!
I'm like come on now brain! We have other things to stress dream about!
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on November 25, 2019 at 11:52 AM
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Lol, glad I’m not the only one! Like consciously I don’t feel like I care anymore, yet I’m still dreaming about it and finding my mind wandering back to it? It’s super frustrating hahah, getting to the point where I’m wondering if someday I’m going to be 10 years married and still stressed about the wedding 😂
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on November 25, 2019 at 12:06 PM
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You're not alone aha I think as we consider things in hindsight it's like darn wish we did this or when we go to other weddings it's like aw this so cute wish we had that. Aha
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on November 25, 2019 at 1:00 PM
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Right?? I was one of the first to get married (I have 1 married friend and my husband has 1 married friend but other than that, we don’t have any other friends who are even close to getting married) and I always thought it would be great like, I’ll get the wedding stress out of the way and then when all my friends are going through it I’ll be free of the stress for myself and just able to enjoy theirs. But... now I’m starting to worry that I’ll continue stressing but just won’t be able to do anything about it because it’s already over? So frustrating 😭 I just feel like this feeling should’ve passed by now and I’m hoping it eventually will
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Super March 2019
Alejandra · on November 25, 2019 at 3:48 PM
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I've been married for 8 months now and I still think about what I could have done differently. I even think "okay or my vow renewal, I should avoid this and do that instead" lol! Its crazy, in my head I think we'll have a vow renewal in a few years and then it'll be a good and dandy, but the reality is that my wedding day was still as perfect as I could have imagined it despite the few things that didn't go according to plan. Wedding planning keeps you constantly on your feet, thinking of ways to budget, ways to cut down your guest list, what cake, what flowers, flowers cost how much? Lol then from one day to the next bam its all gone. I have moved my focus and energy into planning our 1st year of marriage vacation, its coming in about 4 months so once hubby makes sure his days get approved we will book flights but we currently have our accommodations booked with cancellation options.
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on November 25, 2019 at 4:35 PM
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This is exactly how I feel too! It was the most amazing day ever and I feel so annoyed at myself for like dwelling on stuff that could’ve been *better* because it was so perfect as is? Like shouldn’t I just be grateful it was so amazing and let the rest go? Lol. Only I really don’t want to plan a vow renewal because I’m SURE it’ll just leave me feeling the same way 😂
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Master January 2019
Cassidy · on November 25, 2019 at 6:58 PM
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I was so mad about my bartender for 2 weeks after the wedding. Anytime I’d think about it I’d just get mad about how they “ruined” it. I sent her a really long text outlining everything she did that upset me. I told her not to write back unless she was returning the money. I never heard back, which I’m fine with. I felt 100x better after that.
I am still upset about not getting a lot of shots, but it was my fault because I didn’t give my photographer a shot list. The less time I spend I. Here the better, lol. I can’t compare my pictures if I don’t see everyone else’s. Plus there is nothing wrong with my pictures. I have to remind myself of that. So, i guess it helps to just put things into perspective. I think you could also look at it from a guest perspective. Did they notice or care about what is nagging you? More than likely not. So why stress. As you said the day was perfect as is 😊
Weve been married 10+ months now by the way.
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on November 26, 2019 at 1:26 PM
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So true. Thank you! It really just helps to know I’m not the only one who can’t stop thinking about this hahahah
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