What was your first fight as a married couple?

As far as I've heard, you have 3 months to write the thank you notes so you still have plenty of time!

FMN- *hugs* *sends you virtual wine*

Thanks @Flying. Also, if you've never heard someone "angrily" build IKEA furniture, it's very scary. There's a lot of banging and rattling. I'm a little worried about my Hemnes dresser.

I drank all my wine or I totally would. Sorry but you definitely have time to write your thank you cards so don't stress. Hugs.

No wine for me tonight...too cold, opted for Hot Chocolate. But I am sending virtual hugs.

I can't have chocolate either *crying emoji*

I haven't had a serious fight with the husband but he has annoyed me today so I cried...usually when it's that time of the month im a cry baby so don't stress sweetie hugs and ps I'm late on our thank you cards I lost them and just found them today!!

I'm so glad I'm not as late as I thought with my cards! Thanks girls

We have a plan to start our thank you cards on Saturday. We've had so much going on that we are both exhausted when we finally have free time and vegging out feels better than getting hand cramps.

Our first fight was huge. It was mainly due to me having trouble coping with the anniversary of my dad's death and being a terror to H. He was patient for a good while, but then understandably snapped. Thankfully I got my head out of my ass and told him what was really wrong and why I was taking it all out on him and we got through it pretty quickly. Not without a few extremely harsh words, though :-/

You've been struggling a lot lately from the posts I've seen. Could stress and tension just be getting to you? Remember that it's all temporary. Healthy couples fight, you'll learn how to do it the right way and things will get better.

Tea? I think you're doing ok with the timing of the thank you cards. And oh my gosh IKEA has caused so many fights in our house. Two people angrily making furniture in two different rooms is an experience I don't recommend. But virtual hugs and if you need anything let me know :-)

Thanks @sass. I guess I know that everything comes down to me feeling lazy and worthless right now. I left my job to come out here for him and we both understand that, and there's no resentment - but it's such a hard change. Every second that I'm not spending looking for a job, I feel like a lazy mooch. I haven't started looking yet bc I've been so busy around the apartment. It's hard. I went to Walgreens today and when he came home from work, I told him everything I bought. He just looked at me like, you don't have to justify it!

I'm sorry about your dad and the tough time you have to go through. I'm glad you were able to talk to your H and get through the tension.

Thanks @Nadia! I'm still really looking forward to a South Bay Area social, keep me in the loop if it's still happening!

I guess I could go make a cup of herbal tea. But then I'd have to apologize, or quietly wait for him to apologize because I'm stubborn and he made me cry and OMG cramps.

FMN, yeah it's still happening on December 10th at noon

@nadia Yay!!

Also cramps suck. FH just sits there when I have cramps asking me why does my body hate me so much.

I have to apologize, don't I. Ugh.

Yeah probably. Just say that you're extra emotional right now and it should be fine.

I would definitely say that your period and medical condition are contributing factors. I get most upset with FH and cry about the smallest things when I'm PMSsing.

Also, I have felt the wrath of a man building something from IKEA. He's not mad at you, he's mad at the dresser.lol.

You aren't being a bitch, just a hormonal woman in pain that can't have the good things in life.

P.s. I don't have wine tonight, but here's my dirty martini on the rocks after a painfully slow night at work

Haha yes! Thank you @chelsea. Enjoy that martini!