Wedding shower wear for bridal party

Maybe get them pins or sashes. I wouldn't try to control what they wear, that's a little much.

I want my ladies to stand out at my shower too. Here are some options: You can ask that they all wear a certain color. For example, if you plan to wear white, ask them to wear one of the wedding colors. You can have them wear shirts that say MOH/Bridesmaid. You can get MOH/Bridesmaid Sashes.


For my shower I think I want all of my guests in white and I plan to wear blush (the blushing bride). I think I will have shirts made for my ladies since I want them in white too.

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I'd be a bit annoyed if I was told I had to wear a certain color to a bridal shower, especially just as a guest and not a member of the wedding party

I agree with pps, you can get them pins that say Brides maid or I Do Crew. Or ask them to wear a certain color but dont ask them to buy a specific outfit/dresses for the shower.
You could do a ribbon pin like this that says Bridesmaid. Theres a lot on etsy.

View Quoted Comment ? I never said that I would have my guests wear a color. And it is a wedding shower, not a bridal shower. And my bridesmaids actually were fine with wearing the same color. And you didn’t answer the question so I’m confused.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the suggestion! Love that idea

View Quoted Comment Thank you, and I never said I would have them wear the same outfit.

View Quoted Comment ? Never said I would control what they wear. I said some sort of coordination, such as color. But thanks!

Find out if they want to coordinate. If they do, fine. If they don't, leave it alone. If anyone asks who your BM are, you can point them out. But a lot of people think being told what color or style to wear, or a special item or jewelry, once at the wedding , is enough. I am not the only one who has not worn robes, or t shirts, or bride chosen jewelry, or any group thing for any party. I have been in bridal parties where most refused, nicely. And where it has made 1 or more angry enough to cause a gift before the wedding. They are not your bride crew or team. They are individual friends and family who may wish to choose what they wear. And at a shower, the bride is supposed to be guest of honor, not arrange things to suit herself. So I repeat: ask if they would like it, before you get something. They may be thrilled. They may hate it.

* cause a rift before the wedding. 3 times typing the word, and auto correct pops it out....grrrr

View Quoted Comment It is a wedding shower, not a bridal shower.
My bridal party is fine with any & everything, all I am asking for is ideas and many people are missing the point lol. I didn’t ask for opinions on IF I should have them coordinated- I have already decided WITH my bridal party that we are coordinating and they are perfectly fine with it. All I needed was some ideas.

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry but, you didn’t answer the question that was asked.

View Quoted Comment Before replying to this forum, please read again what was originally asked. I didn’t ask for opinions on if I should have my bridal party coordinating or not. And nobody’s “forcing” them to do anything. We all agreed and decided together and are excited for it. I also said nothing about my guests being “forced” to wear anything. So please, before telling me what I “need to do” for my wedding, just answer the question and move on 🙄

Before replying to this forum, please read again what was originally asked. I didn’t ask for opinions on if I should have my bridal party coordinating or not. And nobody’s “forcing” them to do anything. We all agreed and decided together and are excited for it. I also said nothing about my guests being “forced” to wear anything. So please, before telling me what I “need to do” for my wedding, just answer the question and move on 🙄

If I was going to try and distinguish my bridesmaids at a shower, I 'd do it more subtly. Like a pin or a piece of jewelry to match mine/other girls. Nothing too stand out-ish.

View Quoted Comment Perhaps if you had said, I talked with my ladies and they agreed to coordinate, so many people ( inc. me) would have addressed how to do it. Clothes, color, or jewelry. But you posted " I want", and since it is considered rude to choose what other adults will wear for a party, of course people will tell you not to do it. If you want an answer to a question, post the complete story. Otherwise, a lot of people would never address a question that might include doing something rude. Read your original post. It says you want them to coordinate. Not, we all want it.

That’s such a fun idea! What are your wedding colors? Maybe everyone could find an outfit that works with your color scheme and then also wear a sash that says “Bridesmaid” or “Maid of Honor”? I think sashes are super cute and would definitely set them apart from everyone! You could also get them in a color that compliments your color scheme as well!

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I was not responding to you. If you looked to see, you would see that I was responding to someone else who had initially responded to you. I'm not sure why you feel the need to be sassy. You've opened up the forum for conversation, and people are giving their thoughts.

I had a friend in a wedding and she was told she HAD to wear green for the shower, I get that it's great that you want your party to stand out but if you are expecting alot financially of your party this might be too much ( that was one complaint she had was she was asked to pay for ALOT of stuff on top of finding several colored clothing items because they NEEDED to match the theme)

View Quoted Comment I said coordinate in some type of way. So it doesn’t have to be the same color or sale outfit. My bridal party is pretty much okay with wearing aNothing we just wanted some ideas