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Danica
Dedicated October 2019

Wedding Shower Invite List

Danica, on September 9, 2019 at 2:23 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 6
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FH's side of the family has decided they want to throw us a wedding shower... However, they have plans of inviting a bunch of people they know but FH & I don't even talk to so they definitely aren't invited to the wedding... Am I wrong for feeling like those that aren't invited to the wedding shouldn't be invited to the wedding shower? Or is it okay to invite people to the shower but not to the wedding?... I haven't ever attended a wedding shower myself so I'm honestly clueless 🤷 I don't want to be rude about it to FH's family since they are kind enough to want to do this for us... But I don't know if I'm comfortable inviting people him & I don't know/associate with. & I definitely don't want to invite people to the wedding just because they show up to the shower... We're paying for the wedding ourselves & can't afford to feed everyone his family alone knows... Our invite list is already around 150 of family & good friends without adding more people that his family comes up with (we live in a smaller town & his mom's side of the family owns a local business so they know a TON of people!).🤦

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Latest activity by Danica, on September 10, 2019 at 3:05 AM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    You’re correct, people who aren’t invited to the wedding shouldn’t be invited to prewedding events. Typically when someone hosts a bridal/couple’s shower, the bride or the couple is still responsible for the guest list. I would ask them if you can provide the guest list or, at minimum, remove those who aren’t invited to the wedding.
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    This is why I declined a bridal shower. My mom wanted to host one in my home state and invite a bunch of ladies I went to church with when I was younger but they weren't invited to the wedding.
    You are correct though, people should only be invited to pre wedding activities if they're on the wedding guest list.
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  • Andrea
    Super October 2019
    Andrea ·
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    I agree with everyone else. It’s not a good idea to invite those who aren’t invited to the wedding. It can seem “gift-grabby” and could causebsome bad feelings.
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  • L
    Lady ·
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    You're instinct is right on - people should not be invited to pre-wedding events if they are not invited to the wedding.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I would just politely let them know you don't need the shower unless they can only invite people invited to the wedding.

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  • Danica
    Dedicated October 2019
    Danica ·
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    Thank you all! ❤ just wanted to make sure I wasn't in the wrong for feeling like those not invited to the wedding, shouldn't come to the shower!
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