I can't tell from your question if you want to ask people for money to pay for your wedding, for your honeymoon, or just general gifts. But in any case, I agree with Caytlyn that asking for money doesn't seem appropriate. If your wedding takes place, people will want to brings gifts of course. But if you don't register, they will likely just bring/send cash or checks without you having to ask them to.
That said, if you know people who have done it, why don't you ask them how they asked for money?
I think asking for money is fine if you word it correctly. My wedding website site has a cash registry page that I created and I posted several items that friends and family would be helping us afford. Most cash donating sites with charge or have a fee, but I’m personally using cash app. If you haven’t heard of cash app, it’s totally legit, not sketchy like I thought at first. But it’s basically and app that lets you transfer money to someone else who has the app. I paid my hair dresser with cash app, a bar tender at a wedding had his handle on a sign, because who carries cash anymore? When couples ask for money, it’s not because we are greedy, it’s because we need things that are unrealistic for people to buy us, like washer and dryer or a mattress or going towards an apartment deposit or your honeymoon.
I would still register for actual gifts because if you don’t, people will get you whatever they feel like getting you and they will ask you what you really want bc they don’t want to give cash, and I’ve already gotten several things from my registry, very few people have gone off the rails. I’ve gotten cash from one, cash app from another and an amazon gift card.
I'm using Zola for mine, but I know a lot of online registry services offer cash funds now. For those commenting, she's not simply "asking people for money." It's just another option on her gift registry. People can choose to either purchase a gift as they normally would for a wedding, or they can see that this particular couple may not need as many material items and would prefer to have experiences together as a couple. So they can buy a gift, or they choose to contribute the amount they would have spent on a gift to one of these funds and know that the people they love and support are getting something they would really enjoy. Personally, don't see anything rude about that. It's the same as registering for gifts and expecting people to spend money on those. I know on Zola you can have a general honeymoon fund, a house down payment fund, or even small specific funds for a kayaking trip on your honeymoon or a cooking class or a fancy dinner, whatever you're into.
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Thanks guys..I guess I never worded it right..I live with my fiancee and I dont really need anything..so that is y I asked about a fund..wedding isnt till july..I understand this is a terrible time for us right now and I'm sorry for those who thought I was inappropriate.
Yeah, that's a tough question to ask on these forums, people have very strong options and are not very polite about voicing them. I put a little poem on my wedding website "Your presence at our wedding is all that we request. If you wish to give a gift to save you from looking, shopping and buying. Here's an idea we hope you like trying. A honeymoon adventure is what we are after. We would love to make new memories full of love and laughter. If you would like to participate a monetary gift would be just great!" . I think it is fine to suggest monetary gifts. You know your crowd.
It's perfectly fine to ask for money for your wedding. There is also a website called honeyfund and from what I understand they're pretty good about getting your money back to you. Hope this helps Congratulations on your big day!
I've had people ask if we were doing a registry or just a honeymoon fund. The funds are definitely becoming more popular, and well there have always been those who prefer to give cash or are just last minute and forget to go buy something and then just cash and a card. I think it might help people know what exactly you'll do with the fund (honeymoon, new house, date night). The Knot can set up different types of cash funds. Others might as well. All charge a processing fee, but some like The Knot charge the fee to the person donating (so if they want to give $25, then they're charged $25+processing fee) where as other sites take the fee from your total (so if someone donated $25 then you would only cash out $25 - processing fee).