Wedding Disaster

Couples counseling would be my suggestion. It sounds like you both could use some help learning to communicate with each other and set boundaries with others (parents included).

Sarah makes a great suggestion! Relationships NEED great communication and boundaries. Talk it out with one another, attend couple's counseling if need be, and learn to move forward from this situation.

"Part of me is feeling angry at my parents for pushing it; part at my in-laws for not being supporting; and part at him for being so dramatic."

I agree with PP that couples counseling is the logical next step. There is so much blame for everyone else in your post. Now that the "deed is done" and there's no where to move but forward, it sounds like time to work on your own communication and relationship skills. That said, even if he isn't willing to put in the work, solo counseling for you would still be a good idea.

First of all, I am so sorry this was your wedding day experience. My heart breaks for all couples who cannot look back at their day with anything but happiness and joy. It sounds like there is a lot of resentment from a lot of different parties and a lot of different perspectives. I completely understand your feelings of hurt and frustration, but I noticed that you mentioned you blame your parents, his parents, and him for the way things turned out- but you are not taking any of that blame yourself. Unfortunately, you were the one who listened to your parents, gave in to their demands, and coerced your husband to go along with a plan you knew he was not on board with. I think it is important for you to realize the huge part you played in this scenario as well, so that you can understand why your husband may have animosity towards you. I agree with PP that counseling would be a good idea here. They can give you tools for effective communication, and help the two of you work this out in a productive manner. At this point, what’s done is done. You cannot go back and change things, so the focus needs to be on moving forward in a healthy way. Good luck! I wish you both a happy marriage!

Well as others have said you two definitely need to communicate your feelings. That is not a good way to start off a marriage with resentment. Unfortunately I feel like weddings do involve some pressure from other family members. I think first things first you should sit down and talk to him and express him how his resentment make you feel as well as his lack of parent support made you feel. You can even express to him that you felt pressure from your family and why you made the decision to want to have a wedding sooner. I am sorry that the ceremony was a disaster but I would even ask him why was he resent fault for doing the wedding sooner? I definitely feel you too in a calm atmosphere need to talk out your problems and if you feel that is not getting anywhere the maybe you two should see some couples counseling to release resolve that issue. I'm driving and this is speak and text so if my words seem a little odd that is why

This is terribly sad. I agree with the above... Therapy and go from there.

As others suggested, I recommend couples therapy.

Ditto! Communication is key to any relationship. There’s no doubt that you don’t love each other but I would start with couples counseling so you can learn better ways of communicating.

Thank you all for your responses. You are right - I need to first of all take the responsibility for my own actions. I feel in this battle I prioritized my parents needs over my spouse. We both need to learn to set the boundaries with our parents but I need to learn to think of him first