Under 21 bachelorette party...

How do you expect the ones under 21 to pay for a trip like that?

Also, you don’t plan your own bachelorette. If your MOH asks, keep it low key, like a spa day or sleepover party. No need to travel. That gets expensive very quickly.

If you gals can afford it Mexico is amazing!! And fairly cheap- just remember to be aware of your Surroundings (as you always should). Otherwise pick a place and have dinner, find places to go that are 18 and up not 21, otherwise rent a great hotel room and go back after dinner and just drink at the room if you all want to enjoy some wine or cocktails together.

I have to admit, I always think that it screams entitlement when people want their bridal party to do trips. I mean, come on- even if I have the money around to take a trip, I probably don't want to spend it on someone's wedding. I'd rather plan my own trip.

Like PPs said, let your MOH plan the party. That way, if they actually WANT to do a trip, they'll tell you. Otherwise, be happy with what you get.

Most 21 year olds do not have stable income, so I'd suggest not leaving the US (which would require everyone to have a passport already.) If you're so inclined to take a trip, look into air bnb's within driving distance of you and maybe rent out a whole house somewhere (maybe the beach) for a weekend. That way the 21 year olds can drink and have an entire house to have a good time in without excluding the under-21-year-olds from the fun. Plus if you have a whole house, the bridal party can decorate it for a bachelorette weekend! Mimosa bar, treats, themed things.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this. It costs a lot of money to go on a trip and that money can be better spent. With the bridesmaids being so young I think expecting them to spend so much is very inconsiderate.

A bunch of people under 21 will probably not have much money to leave the US, unless you live RIGHT near a border. That still requires a lot of time and probably more money than all the girls have. I would just leave the planning to your MOH.

I agree with pps, there is absolutely no way I could have afforded to do something like this when I was 20/21, since I was in college. And even though I could afford it now, I honestly would not want to spend my vacation money/time off for the year on a bachelorette party, no matter who it was for.

You don't plan your own bachelorette party either. If someone wants to graciously organize one for you, they will.

That's a really hard trip to make unless everyone has a full time job, passports ready, and PTO built up. I would do some research into traveling and get an estimate. I'm a party pooper, I know.

I suggest taking a weekend trip somewhere instead. I'm not sure where you are all at, but look into national parks, water parks, cruises, or even some in-town fun like skating and paint night sessions to rent out. These are a lot nicer on the wallet and depending on everyone's budgets, you can adjust accordingly.

I have 2 younger gals in my party plus I okay'd the flower girl joining us (her mom is a BM). So I kept it fairly family friendly while still giving the option for the legal adults to drink if they chose. We will be going to a national park with the boys, having a lovely dinner, and then splitting from the boys to join a paint night and slumber party together.

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I could have afforded a trip like this when I was 17. Im sure the bride understands or has an idea of what someone can afford or might like to do. Many people might not have a savings account but they are spending their money somewhere lol

I have two girls in my BP that are going to be just a couple months shy of 21 when my wedding rolls around. My sister (MOH) is planning my bachelorette and although I'm not sure exactly what she's planning, I do believe she mentioned getting a hotel room for a night or two so when we are in the room, the underage girls still have the option to drink. But she threw some ideas at me like doing an escape room, painting with a twist, murder mystery show. These are things that people of all ages can enjoy. And like I said, we could ALL drink in the hotel later that night.