Savvy April 2020

To register or not to register?

Marie, on November 17, 2019 at 11:46 AM Posted in Registry 0 7
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My fiancé and I have been living together for 3 years now. We have everything we need. Not everything we’d like, but everything we need.
Future wedding guests are asking about our registries.
We don’t have any. Thought about putting “your attendance is gift enough” in invite but people are saying they’re still gonna send money (people who can’t make it, people who can). What is your opinion on this?Let them send money. Make a registry of our “wants” and share with guests who inquire. Make a registry of upgraded needs and share with everyone. No one wants to donate to a charity, but should we identify a charity anyway and ask people to send gifts there?


  • Marie
    Savvy April 2020
    Marie ·
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    I forgot to mention: we aren’t going on a honeymoon within the first year of marriage so think we won’t ask for honeymoon fund either.
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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    There is no harm in them sending money. And most people will do so, even if you tell them their presence is enough.

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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    We had been together for a almost 4 years when we got married and have two homes so we didn’t need anything but people gave us money and gift cards which was fine.
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  • Nicole
    Savvy November 2019
    Nicole ·
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    We had the same issue. My husband and I were living together for 2 years before our wedding. We made a registry on Amazon, so it incorporated more than just house items. We needed a lot of travel stuff for our honeymoon, so that helped too. There's also no harm in having a honeymoon fund or people giving money. We got more money for our wedding than gifts on our registry.

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  • Mary
    Savvy May 2020
    Mary ·
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    The best thing to do is to omit *any* information about registry or gifts on the invite. When you are then asked if you have a wedding registry, simply say "No, we don't have one". Most guests will then understand that they should give cash/cards.

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  • Christine
    Expert September 2020
    Christine ·
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    If there are some items you'd like to upgrade or items you want (but don't need), then feel free to make a registry! Otherwise people will hopefully just give you money, which is totally fine.

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  • Donna
    Savvy December 2020
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    I wouldn't put anything on your invitation about gifts/money but there's no harm in creating a registry of your wants. If you get the items then awesome! If you don't, then you're no worse off than you were before. Otherwise people will probably give you money, which is always helpful for life haha.

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