I plan on just changing my name to his only. Things to keep in mind, sometimes with hyphenated names you may run into issues throughout life as far as signing documents and insurance info specifically with prescription insurance, or people having trouble pulling you up in their system type deal.
I took my husband's last name. I already have two middle names so it would have been way too long of a name of I would have hyphenated it. We also want children and my husband wants then tomhsve his last name so I want the same last name as my future children.
Both my wife and I hyphenated so we would have the same last name. I am an only child, so it was important for me to keep my maiden name. However, my wife also wanted to keep her maiden name, so hyphenating was an easy compromise.
I'm going to hyphenate my middle name and maiden name and just take FH last name as mine. He has a long last name so hyphenating last names would be a lot, but I didn't want to completely get rid of my last name
I was planning to make my last name second middle name and add make his last name mine: First: Alexandra Mid: Middle MyLastLast: HisLast but then I got to city hall and found out that in MA, that's not an option. I also would like to have the same last name as my hypothetical kids, but I didn't want to lose any part of my current name, because it feels like giving up a part of it would be giving up a part of myself* and it's very important to me that we can acknowledge that we are still two distinct people. We're getting married to each other, not merging into one person. I ended up choosing to add his name as a second last name. First: AlexandraMid: MiddleLast: MyLast HisLast Spelled with a space, no hyphen. *not everyone is this attached to their name, and I don't mean to offend anyone who makes a different choice. If you don't feel this way, there's nothing wrong with just changing your name.
*That ended up being formatted really awkwardly and I can't edit it on my phone.
I changed my last name to his and dropped my maiden name. I felt like hyphenating would be too clunky. I thought about the decision a lot, but even still, it was a little upsetting after I had done it. For a bit, I did feel like part of my identity was gone, but I don't really feel that way anymore. My name doesn't define me, rather, I define my name. Also, I realized that my last name wasn't necessarily mine either, but my dad's that was given to me at birth. My new last name is 1 I chose because I chose my husband and I chose to share a last name with him and our future children.
Considering on keeping my last name just so I don't have to go through the hellish ordeal of changing my name. What I might do is ditch the middle name and make my maiden name the new middle name, since it's important that I keep it in some way.
I kept my maiden name. It saves me time and hassle from trying to change it, and plus I’m in my 30s and have an established career with my name. Our kids would take his last name and I don’t think it will be an issue since my mom had a different last name from us growing up. My mom kept her maiden name when she married, and through the decades it’s sort of hyphenated.
I plan to take his last name. There are multiple reasons that it's important for us to share a last name and I do not like hyphenations. It also helps that my last name is hard to pronounce and spell but his is pretty simple. Ultimately, keeping my last name just isn't a big deal to me.
I am keeping my last name because I am too established in my career at this point though if people want to call me by his last name socially I am fine with that. If we have kids they will have my last name and DH has considered changing his last name to mine.
We're both in the arts and would rather keep our careers separate, to a degree. Also, I have never wanted to change my name - I'm an only child, and I only have female cousins on my dad's side. Add in MIL keeping *her* last name... (she asked me if I was changing mine, and when I said no, she just looked at me, smiled, and said, "good girl").
It's all about how you feel. You are the one who has to sign it!
I'm going with 2 last names. So, first middle mylast hislast. No hyphen. Just like RBG. Ruth Bader Ginsberg. She didn't hyphenate either. This means that I can use any combination of names - that mattered professionally. Legally, I must sign all 4 names for insurance, taxes, titles, etc. I love it! I'll still be Mrs. X, but me too!!