The big move in!

So we moved in together long before we got married, but I would approach this as a conversation between you and your future spouse. Do either of you particularly like 1 apartment over the other (such as amenities, price, location, size, etc.)? For instance, if one of you lives in an apartment that fits all your needs then maybe pick that. Or, if you can both now afford a nicer apartment (maybe you want a dishwasher or central AC or a 2nd bathroom), you can check out what's around since now you may have a larger budget than when you had only 1 income (assuming you both have an income). Is either of your leases expiring sooner than the other? You can always move into the 1 with the more length of time on the lease and then if you decide you don't want to stay there, find a new place when that lease is up. I would try to factor in all those things plus distance from work, friends, family, activities you like to do, etc.

I would move into a new space. In my experience it’s much harder when it feels like one person’s place.

I’ve always found it is best to move into a new place together so that the place feels equally yours and his. Moving into an established residence with someone else can oftentimes leave you forever feeling like you are just living in someone else’s home. Plus, when someone has an established home, they tend to have very specific places they want things to be kept and specific ways things need to be done in that home. Moving into a new home together can provide a fresh start where you can decide how to decorate and where to place things together 😀

I agree with PP. I would move in to a new place together and start fresh!

Do either of you own your home? If you both rent I think I would find a new place.


My fiancé owns his house and I am renting. We are currently remodeling the home. It was built in the 1920s. We restained the floors and had the walls painted. My fiancé literally moved everything out. Once the remodel is finished we are decorating it together. This way it will feel more like our home vs me moving into his house.

My husband and I were living with my family for a year before the wedding (I had just graduated college and needed to save money, and he was there like 75% of the time anyway so he ended up just moving in lol). The plan was to move out into our own place a couple months before the wedding, but it was WAY too much to deal with moving and planning a wedding, so we pushed it off. We got married in early June, went on our honeymoon, came back and kinda let things settle and get back to normal for a bit, then started apartment hunting again in July. We moved the second week of August

My hubs to be owned his house and I was renting. So I moved into his house. But I made it home - he has said that many times. He had like a couch and a bed. I brought my decorations and merged our likes together. But we had lots of conversations about what that looked like. I've lived there almost a year and it's my home and I love it.

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Well that doesn't sound too bad! We definitely need time to look at places, we could stay with his parents for a while if we wanted