Suddenly moving after the wedding, how to manage the stress of it all?

Wow, that is a lot to take on all at once!

We will be dealing with moves but nothing quite as drastic. He lives 50 miles away, and he'll be moving in with me this summer, and then after the wedding we'll start looking for a home somewhere in the middle between his work and mine. But we have more time than that so it's not nearly as stressful.

I'd use both names in my cover letter, maybe like this: Jane Smith (formerly Doe)

It may depend on your industry and how much of your previous experience would be tied to your name (such as if you were a published writer or something along those lines).

My FH is Air Force and once he gets back from deployment in May I'll be moving 350 miles to where he's stationed. He moved out of his house on base when he deployed so once he gets back he'll have to look for a place to stay until we can find a apartment/house to rent (or buy). Our wedding is in September so we are going to have to travel constantly between two states moving me and planning a wedding (meeting vendors, dress fitting, etc). Did I mention he applied to move to a new base about 800 miles away so that would be an even bigger issue if it's approved. I'll also have to find a new job which is sad because I LOVE my current company. I'm basically a big ball of anxiety so i feel your pain. It will work out for both of us

I agree with Natalie above about using your maiden name for the job applications. My payroll department won't change my name until I go through the process with social security and the DMV.

I haven't gone through your same situation but I have moved a few times under tight timelines. My best advice would be to start packing now, even if you do just one box a day. Getting the packing out of the way slowly but surely will ease any last minute panic.

Yes, if you are going to start applying now, use your maiden name.

Wow, that is really stressful. My advice- allow yourself to be sad about it for awhile. That is disappointing and stressful, and it's okay to feel that way about it. I'm really glad your in-laws aren't just throwing you under the bus though. It's very generous of them to offer to help you move. And even though the timing doesn't feel right now, maybe by the time you move, something will have happened that makes it the perfect timing! Best of luck!