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Brooke
Savvy August 2019

Struggling to Introduce myself...

Brooke, on August 29, 2019 at 3:02 PM Posted in Married Life 0 10
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Hey everyone! I finally got married and I am so grateful that the planning is finally done and everything fell together!


Now I have a stupid issue of not being able to introduce myself with my married name. I keep referring to myself as Brooke (Maiden Name). Any of those who are married, how did you get used to the transition? I have been trying for about two weeks and for some reason, I can't get it through my thick skull lol!

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  • Brianna N
    Super October 2019
    Brianna N ·
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    I'm not married yet, but I can pretty much guarantee that this will be me! Lol! I wouldn't stress over it, I'm sure it'll take me some months (at least) before I get used to it!

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  • Melissa
    VIP September 2019
    Melissa ·
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    I’m sure it will take some time. I’m that person who writes the previous year on things well into February and March lol
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  • Deirdre
    Super March 2018
    Deirdre ·
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    Don't worry. It took me a month before I introduced myself right the first time (I would say my maiden name first always and then correct myself). When I knew I was going to be in a situation where I was going to introduce myself, I practiced saying my new name in my head over and over again. It took a few months before it became natural. If you think you're bad, I signed my new social security card with my maiden name (it was the first thing I signed with the new name and I just wasn't in the habit yet). Smiley xd

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  • KarenO
    Master June 2018
    KarenO ·
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    It's been more than a year for me, and I still stumble on it sometimes. I just tell them that I recently got married and am still getting used to my new name. And, I still feel like an impostor when I use my new last name.

    It doesn't help that my email at work has yet to be updated - that's another story - so I'm constantly explaining to contacts why my email address doesn't follow the company's standard FirstinitialLastname format.

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  • B
    Expert July 2017
    Becky ·
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    I *still* (2+ years later) occasionally think in terms of my maiden name. You used that name a long time, so don't be so hard on yourself lol

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  • A
    Expert August 2019
    Ami ·
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    Im 26 days married and this is the part of wedding planning that I dreaded the most. I LOVE my maiden name, it's so unique and ties me to an awesome family....but I also wanted to have the same name as my husband and kids, so I'm trying to get used to it. So far I just avoid it, hoping it'll grow on me with time.
    So you're not alone.
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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    I've been married over a year and a half and I still have moments where I forget that I have a new name lol. Or how to spell it without thinking about it after a long day. The struggle is real.

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  • Sexypoodle
    VIP October 2020
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Well, you had your maiden name all of your life and only gained your husbands name two weeks ago. I think you’ll be fine. It’s similar to when the new year begins and you accidentally keep writing the old year down.
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  • Haley
    Expert October 2020
    Haley ·
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    I'm worried people are going to think I'm making my name up hahahaha. My new name will be Haley Bailey...People already call me that just as a nickname but I feel like if I introduce myself like that, people are going to think that's not my real name.

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  • Alejandra
    Super March 2019
    Alejandra ·
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    It takes time, I've been married for almost 6 months and still weird out when I say my new last name. After 30 years its just so different. Lol, but I'm getting there.

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