Stagette expectations

Wow she’s being very unreasonable. Who can afford $2500 and a week away along with paying for all the things that go in to a wedding. That’s a lot to ask of someone.

Wth is a stagette🤷 where I'm from we've only got bachelorette and bridal parties.. That must be a rich folk thing💁


If I was a MOH and the bride wanted that much spent on a stagette I'd tell her⬇⬇⬇⬇⬇

Well if she is that upset then she can plan her own. Some brides get so caught up in what they want and they do not think of others. I know I would not pay $2000 to attend a stagette. Maybe ask to poll people she wanted to invite to see if they are willing to pay?

View Quoted Comment They’re essentially the same thing, just called different things depending on the area and culture. It has nothing to do with wealth.


I would tell your friend that you’re sorry, but you’re not able to plan a party that meets her expectations.

Your friend is being very inconsiderate and selfish. Be honest that you wish you could do the trip she wants, but it's simply not possible for you to do so. She's asking for way too much, in my opinion.

That is completely unreasonable on the bride’s part. I would just tell her I was sorry but that simply isn’t something I feel comfortable participating in. If it means you aren’t in the wedding, I think it’s time to evaluate who this person really is and wether or not you want a friend like that.

You did enough and offered her options. A $2500 trip is asking way too much!

Totally unreasonable.

View Quoted Comment Um i never heard of that term especially where I'm from.. 👌🙎

View Quoted Comment Yes, I understand that, that’s why I was informing you.

View Quoted Comment A stagette is the same as a bachelorette party. As another person explained, its called different things depending on where you live: stagette, bachelorette, hen do, hen party. Its really just
North America that uses “bachelorette”.

That’s insane! I’d be out.

She is outright wrong. When someone offers to throw a party for you, you can turn them down. But it is outrageously rude to demand any specific thing . That is like handing back a present and saying, not good enough, spend $2000 more on me. Greedy. Unacceptable. The traditional bachelor party or bachelorette is a single evening out for drinks, sometimes drinks and dinner. And maybe a taxi ride home . With hosts, a few people or everyone, splitting g the cost of the bride's drinks and dinner. Because TV shows and movies show spectacular things, does not mean everyone at every income level is entitled to them. All she is entitled to is what her friends who are paying have in their budget, for a evening. I think your bride friend is disgusting to be so demanding. People have forgotten that the shower and bachelorette are lesser parties than the wedding. And what is spent on a wedding gift, or a bridesmaid dress or GM clothes, are supposed to be the highest single costs friends ever pay . Extorting more from friends because she thinks she deserves it, shows she has no class, and is rude to her friends. Whoever would want to give anything to miss nasty. Gimme, gimme.

Oh hell no. So selfish and rude. I’d be out lol. It’s unreasonable for her to ask you to spend that much and sure it’s okay to be disappointed but to be so upset that you can’t attend when you have a NEW BABY. She sounds like a diva, no no girl.

Thanks for the responses, everyone! I've been losing a lot of sleep over the whole thing, especially when the bride stopped talking to me. I'm giving her some time to cool down and then I'll see if she wants to be more reasonable about her stagette (aka, bachelorette). She has been really good natured and relaxed about everything else regarding the wedding, so it felt like this came out of left field. Maybe there's more going on under the surface than I know about.

That's not reasonable to expect anyone to spend $2,500 on a bachelorette no matter how close of friends or family. There are so many options for a bachelorette party she needs to reconsider or she will be a party of one and then she will really be disappointed. A fun evening or weekend does not need to be that expensive.