Stag raffle ideas

Why are you asking guests to pay for your wedding?

View Quoted Comment Hi Michelle .. I'm not asking guest to pay for my wedding.... we are simply holding an event that anyone can buy tickets to.. they will come and eat, drink, party, win raffles, and have fun. No one is obligated to come but since they're such a fun time guests of the wedding as well as other people who aren't attending the wedding will attend because these events are highly popular in some areas aka Connecticut where I am from.. literally everyone does them, everyone goes to them, and everyone supports each other when they have them.... we've bought tickets for a stag even when we couldn't attend the stag just to provide support.... Guys love them because they get to eat, drink beer, party, and have fun. No one is obligated to go and often random people who aren't even coming to the wedding buy tickets and want to come because it's fun and there's prizes, like my dad's coworkers, family friends, etc and it can raise anywhere between $2,500 to $20,000 towards the wedding for the bride and groom.... why would you want to pay for your whole wedding when you could literally throw a fun party for your FH and all his friends, family, and others and make some money towards the wedding??
Clearly we are not just doing some random thing that no one in our area does... but also... please tell me more about how this is different than literally picking out gifts for yourself for your shower and asking people to buy you presents? And then personally sending out invitations so they feel obligated to go and buy a $50 mixing bowl and if they can't attend they still feel like they need to buy you something because you invited them?

Because for this, we aren't inviting anyone.... we are simply hosting an event and if people want to come they can.. and if they are boring people who think we just want them to pay for our wedding they can stay home 😘
But anyways... do you have any ideas on stag games to sell more tickets for my FH's stag ? Or did you just come on here to ask your rude question that I'm sure you've written on everyone's post about stags?

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I appreciate that these events are common in certain areas (while completely foreign in others) but I anticipate you will not get very much support behind your philosophy 'why.. pay for your whole wedding when you could...make some money towards the wedding' as you have essentially confirmed that you are fundraising for your wedding.

It's a very foreign concept to me and not one that I would myself partake but I guess to clarify what you are after, are the games meant to take place on the stag night or are these games meant to be used to actually help sell tickets. Little bit confused as to what is being asked in that respect.

View Quoted Comment Yes. It literally is a way to raise money for the wedding and often more guest attend the stag than the wedding... we're expecting over 200 people for the stag and are having a smaller 100 person wedding. It is a large party for the sole purpose of raising money and having fun. It is separate from a Bachelorette or Bachelor party. Not sure why you think it's strange to partake in such an event but don't think it's strange literally ask someone to buy you towels and stock your house with items you don't want to personally buy and then have to sit and watch you open them.... that is a strange concept to me. That's okay because it's gifts and not money? I'm sure you also expect guests to give cards with money in it when they attend your wedding.... which is to help cover costs of the wedding...?


I don't really need support around the concept of 'fundraising' ... I need support with ideas for games that they can play at the stag to sell more tickets to raise more money.

So it is basically like a bridal shower but for the groom? I kind of like the cocept. Is this a party where both men and women to attend? Trying to understand who would be playing the games.

View Quoted Comment Yes! Exactly like a shower but for the groom... and a lot less fancy 😂, no invites or anything. Usually you'd just spread the word via social media, Facebook event, etc.. the groomsmen have a competition to see who can sell the most tickets and then the winner gets compensated. It's pretty much a party.. there will be beer pong championships, 50/50 raffle, etc ...some people do 'Stag and Doe' which is like a combo and then the women would have no shower. Three couples we know this year did a virtual raffle so that people who didn't attend could get tickets and still win prizes. The prizes are usually pretty legit so it's not like raffling off a bottle of alcohol or like a gift basket..... we have an Xbox series X, apple watch, air pods, Chromebook, Ring Doorbell, Hue Lights, Amazon Echo, Google Home, fire pit... so it brings in a lot due to the prizes for the raffle... but usually there are games that the guys play at the event to win more tickets for the raffles.. I'm just looking for some ideas for the guys to do to see if I can find something different that I haven't heard of before. 😊

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Got it! That is legit fun and would probably be a hit in my FH's circle of friends. I will have to bring it up to him. He has a lot of work friends that would probably want to party with him in celebration but not necessarily attend a wedding with all of our family

Beer Pong, Ping Pong, Sports Trivia, and musical chairs are fun. Maybe even card games like Poker, Black Jack, and Roulette. Our friends also love board games and video games, particulary this Formula One racing game so they tend to set up the PS4 and race wheel at all of their parties anyway. So maybe you can make an area inside or outside where people can have a video game tournament or like a cards against humanity tournament. Also Kings Cup is hilarious and an essential party game. You can hold one tournament and have people bid for a seat in the game. Scavenger Hunt is also an option if you want to get creative. Maybe even a variation of the baby name safety pin game they play at baby showers. Those kind of games bring out the competitor in everyone.

If you guys have any favorite party games think of those and maybe add or remove rules to make the game more exciting for everyone participating and even those hanging out on the sidelines.

View Quoted Comment I like the idea of having video game tournaments!! They're big gamers too. We could set a projector up outside! Definitely need beer pong tournaments, the winners would split the money with the groom. It's pretty much a large competition/gambling night where the winners split the winnings with the groom.

View Quoted Comment It's a stagget/stag. You ask people to buy a ticket for a night of fun at the bar. This is a very common thing in my area. Back in the day women had showers and men had stags. The bridesmaids or groomsmen plan the event and people who want to go can pay something like $25 for a ticket which should get them drinks at the bar, and whatever extra money goes to the groom or bride. So think of it as a shower for the groom. It's just like how nowadays men have diaper parties and women have baby showers.

Also to add to that women nowadays have staggets. I forgot to add that to my comment

View Quoted Comment Agree with this. I think people on ww need to realize one thing before making comments on others posts. And that's, that not everyone celebrates the same. Different areas, religion, different cultures have different traditions. What may not seem acceptable to you might be perfectly acceptable to another area of the world, religion, or culture. Just remember that before commenting. There are some traditions I never even heard of until I came on here.

OP, may I ask what part of CT you’re from? I had only ever heard of this tradition in Canada! I’ve lived in NY/CT my whole life. Not something I would do but I’d probably attend one given the chance.


I think Stephanie had some great suggestions. Will you have access to an outside space? What about a corn hole tournament?

View Quoted Comment I live in New Haven County and I know through social media marketing of a bunch of people who have had these, though I've always associated them more with upstate and Western MA.


OP - I saw one on social media recently where they were having a cornhole tournament, I think that would be a great hit. Bocce might also be popular if you have some Italian folks in your crowd. Beer pong and other drinking games of course.
I would say, maybe I'm out of touch but if I were having one I wouldn't charge much more than $20 per ticket. The one I saw was $40 and that seemed like a lot.

View Quoted Comment Believe it or not, you would really be surprised at how many people attend these events. It’s definitely specific to peoples areas. Respectfully saying to you, Whether we agree with it or not it doesn’t mean that we should knock the bride for wanting to do this. If no one ends up showing up that’s on the bride and groom. But she’s really only asking for ideas on games. I don’t think she cares if we would do it or not

You could buy roulette set and have people yes the numbers. A dollar per number. I want a bottle of wine at an Armenian festival one time playing this game LOL and I only been on one number! Haha others bought like 10 numbers(10&dollar obviously but it was really fun

Guess* not yes and Won* not want.

Are you from like Gardner mass area?

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Weird, I'm also in New Haven County and these are very big in my circle/family!

Also agree with this comment, a Bocce tournament is a great idea if you have Italian folks, we're a big Italian Family and everyone loves Bocce!!

OP- I'm not sure if you're doing a joint party for the stag or if it's specific to just your FH, but at my FH brothers Jack and Jill they had two jars set up with Bride and Groom, and people put in a dollar for who should get a pie in the face, the jar with the most money got the pie! It was a lot of fun (tho the bridal party made it so they both got pies lol)

View Quoted Comment So odd! I lived in Milford for years and had lots of friends who grew up in the area and I never heard of it until I read about it on another message where a few people from eastern Canada had them. Now I lived near RI and definitely no one I know has them.


I LOVE the raffles for a pie in the face 😂. That’s hilarious! Bocce is a great suggestion; really any lawn/beach game would work if you have ample outside space!

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That's so weird lol! Tho I always assumed it was more of an Italian thing since I come from a super large Italian Family and no one in our family bats and eye at the idea of buying tickets.

FH was worried about having one cause he doesn't have a lot of friends, and I'm like just do it since my parents friends/aunts and uncles friends will ALL buy tickets without question even tho they don't know us. My uncle is a knight for the knights of Columbus and says all the knights will buy tickets no questions asked lol