HoneyHoney
Hey friends! It's been so long since I've been on here but married life has been great! We even got a cute little fur baby and we loveee her. But, over the last few weeks I've been getting easily irritated at my husband. If anything he says comes off the wrong way (to me) it'll throw me off and just put me in a sour mood, and I can't shake it off right away. We do work together and we rarely go out and do things separately. For example, anytime he wants to hang out with a friend from work, they always want to make it a double date. I've never said no because I know it makes him happy when he wants me there with him and doing stuff with other couples! But yesterday, I desperately wanted to just relax at home and work on my website for my business. I wanted to spend time with our puppy and just be a bum since we work full time all week. He convinced me to go bowling for his dad's company party and said we'd only be there for a couple hours and then we could come back to his parents and let Honey (our pup) run around while I work on my website. I agreed, but we were there for 3 hours and didn't get home until 4, then got to his parents house at 5, I worked on the website for 20 minutes and his family all wanted to play board games for the rest of the evening, so that's what we did. He always says "sorry I didn't think we'd be there for that long." It's the same thing every time. I got 20 minutes to myself basically and by the end of the night I was just annoyed and wanted nothing to do with anyone. This made him irritated, and when we got home he said "are you mad at me or what?" I was on the verge of tears by this point and when we crawled into bed I broke down and he apologized and wanted to know what was wrong but I just cried until we both fell asleep. This morning we woke up and were doing fine, made breakfast together and cracked jokes like usual. But I still just feel like I need to be alone and ugh, I feel bad for wanting this? But I seriously have always been a VERY independent person. If I don't get some time to myself, I start to feel like I don't have control over my own life. I feel like I'm constantly trying to make everyone else happy, especially him. Any advice on how to handle this without getting angry at him? He really does mean well, this is just where we really are different from each other. He claims he's never sick of me, but sometimes I get that vibe regardless idk. On the other hand, I WILL get sick of someone I'm constantly around no matter who they are. It's never personal, I just need my space.Thanks in advance!