molly
Savvy August 2021

Skipping parties?

molly, on June 9, 2021 at 4:59 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 11
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My guy n I decided that we don't need all the parties prior to the wedding to save money ie: bachelor/bachelorette party, engagement party, bridal shower.. We're both older (hes 50,I'm 43) and he's been married before so he got to experience all these but this is my first wedding( even as far as being involved in someone else's!) And now that it's a month and a half to the wedding I can't help but feel that I might be missing out.. Any advice or opinions?

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Latest activity by C, on June 15, 2021 at 9:13 PM
  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I didn't feel like I needed any extra parties besides the wedding reception, and I never regretted that decision. I guess only you can decide what you will regret, but your wedding is so soon, I would just focus on the main event. That's definitely the most important thing no matter what other parties you have!

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  • molly
    Savvy August 2021
    molly ·
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    Thank you!
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    We’re older too & we didn’t feel the need to have (or spend) the extra $$ on parties. His parents were adamant about having a rehearsal dinner which they paid for since this is their only son’s first wedding. My bachelorette party consisted of a handful of ladies making candles & having pizza afterwards- that was a few days before the wedding. I wanted a nice evening to relax before the big day. His bachelor party consisted of going to some place for ax throwing & a nice dinner after.
    We didn’t feel like we missed out on anything.
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  • molly
    Savvy August 2021
    molly ·
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    This is very reassuring! Thanks for sharing Smiley smile
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Many people skip parties and don’t feel they missed anything. If you think you will have regrets, go ahead with the parties but they are optional.
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  • Carissa
    Dedicated September 2022
    Carissa ·
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    I think its really a personal opinion. For my sisters wedding, we did the typical renting a limo and bar hopping, and we had a great time. Her husband chose not to do any type of bach party. I'm not much of a bar person, so I plan to get an AirBnB near the lake with my bridal party and just do some swimming and drinking. My cousin just did a day at the winery with a very small group of girls.
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  • Tone
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    Tone ·
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    If you think you’re gonna regret it its not too late to have a bachelorette. You don’t have to go all out, my FH and I are having a combined party since we have the same group of friends and we’re just having a fire with smores, pizza, and setting up a projector in the back yard to watch some movies. We decided to have one last week and all of our friends said yes for this Friday, so I guess that depends on your group but I don’t think its too late to celebrate.
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  • Makeba
    Dedicated September 2022
    Makeba ·
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    My fiancé and I just decided on an engagement dinner. I’m an event planner & decorator so I’m super excited. We won’t be hosting anything else until the wedding. Do whatever is best for your situation.
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  • Gloria
    Dedicated September 2023
    Gloria ·
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    I don't know anyone who's had a bachelor/bachelorette party or an engagement party. I know a few people who have had bridal showers but I also know several people who have skipped them. We're going to be skipping all of these extra parties, even the bridal shower since we already own a home and honestly we don't need anything. I don't feel like we'll be missing out on anything but that's me. If you think that you might regret it you can always plan something simple. Do whatever you would like to do. Smiley smile

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  • Michelle
    Dedicated August 2021
    Michelle ·
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    We're older, too, and having our first. It's COVID year, and I'm still awkward and planning, so I've resolved not to travel for parties in my final 60 days. If my ladies fly in early, we may do a tea or a brunch 2 days before the wedding. I've partied a lot in my day, and now my goal is to not be bloated on the day of my wedding. Smiley laugh

    Pre-COVID, my FH went international for all his friends' bachelor parties, so I think he'll feel like he's missed out. But, I'll try to be gracious when he does come to me with an idea and try not to throw our budget in his face. We are not having a honeymoon right after.

    I hope you find something that works for you.

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  • C
    Savvy September 2021
    C ·
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    I'm choosing not to have a bachelorette party (it's not really my thing) and FH is having a large camping trip for his bachelor party. It all comes down to personal preference. I wouldn't do anything (including having parties) to appease other people.

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