Skipped bridal shower

I’m trying not to...my mom & aunt think I must, my wedding party thinks I should, & my FH thinks I should too. Personally, though, the only thing I really like about them is the ability to see people, so that’s kind of the line I’m drawing in pandemic times: If it seems safe for people to hang, sure, we can have one, & I’d prefer it be as casual as possible. If it has to be virtual, then it really feels like a gift grab only & I’m not okay with that. My family is insistent that “the couple doesn’t plan a shower, everyone else does,” so I’m trying to convey those broad wishes & then not worry about it too much...

Yes, it is perfectly fine not to have a bridal shower. It isn’t a requirement for a wedding.
I think your reasons for not wanting to have one are 100% justified and respectful of your friends and family.

I’m not having one- my fiancé & I have been living together for some time & own our home. I don’t need anything for it. In fact, we’re not even registered anywhere for our wedding. All we have set up is a honeymoon fund. I’ve had several people ask me where we’re registered & when I tell them we only have a honeymoon fund, the look of relief on their faces is awesome! “I don’t have to go out & buy something or look over registry sites- just get a card & put $$ in it?” -that’s the response I’ve gotten!

It's fine to skip it. I plan on having a virtual prewedding party.

It’s perfectly fine to skip the showers if that’s what you want!

Totally cool to skip it!! A friend of mine is not a shower girl at all and we complied with her wishes - no shower 😉 blame covid as us girls have to work it to our advantage at every opportunity!! ❤️

You can skip it if you don't want one! Another thing you could do if you wanted to celebrate with everyone (but don't want gifts) is to put together a list of items needed by a local charity (animal shelter, school, etc), and anyone who wants to bring a gift can instead bring something off that list, and you can donate it to the charity after the event!

We aren’t. We are both middle aged and want an awesome elegant wedding but none of the run up stuff.
My adult daughters are my bridesmaids, and they want to do some fun activities but no shower stuff.

So I'm on the fence. At first, my mom wanted to throw us a couple's shower, but no one really has a big enough house, so then we'd have to throw it a venue or restaurant -- which can get pricey. Also, with a couple's shower, some family would be excluded and I don't want to have to deal with the drama. Instead, now my mom is offering to spend that money for the shower to go towards the wedding. Which we'll probably go in that direction. Plus, FH and I have been living together for almost 5 years now, so we really don't need anything.

I’ve seen plenty of people skip pre wedding events

We didn’t do one. MIL wanted to give us one but I would have had to fly cross country and none of my family would have been able to make it there so it felt stupid to me. She was very adamant in throwing us one, but with Covid it thankfully was something she agreed not to do.
I didn’t miss it

I'm not planning to have one. Not my thing!

Originally, showers were for first weddings only, both Trouseau and hopechest, that is soft goods and clothing for marriage for bride, and household goods. For women usually living at home with parents. Or poor, with roommates. You don't meet those conditions, you don't need a shower. Some people want a social party instead, but with Covid, why? Some single larger wedding gifts will likely come your way, and may be better than a whole lot of little things. We filled a huge amount of formerly open space with our shower and wedding gifts.

They're not required and people know that. They want to share in your happiness and that's how they know to do it.