Sister-in-law Planning Bridal Shower Question

I think you should help her and take some responsibility. It will be best if you take some advice from a professional wedding/event planner

Let the hostesses decide to ask her to plan with them, or not. Please do not micromanage the shower, which is a party planned by others. You have plenty to do, and your stepping on their toes might create a world of resentment. You chose your wedding party members. Leave this and any other parties to others.

Judith I feel like you are always trolling my posts. So much so I kind of stopped posting. It's like you don't even read anything I write. How is me giving my sisters a guest list micromanaging? That's normal. I stated that I have no part in planning it nor do I intend to.

I would ask your sister or your SIL if they would like to invite your FSIL to be included in the planning. If they answer yes, make sure they have each others contact info and let them take it from there.

If the rest of your bridal party is included I would say just give your FSIL information to your brothers wife since she is hosting it and let her know that she should reach out to see if your FSIL even wants to be included in the planning process of the shower. You aren't micromanaging anything you are just making sure that everyone is being included so no one feels any type of way!

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Exactly! She's like a sister to me too, so I just want her to feel included. I'm getting that worked out and I sent my sister people's addresses.

View Quoted Comment I so get it, it would be more stressful for you if any drama came up because this or that person didn't get to help! Not to mention how it may make your brother feel that she doesn't get to be included! Everyone is different, at the end of the day make sure you get what you want!!!

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My brother's wife is actually the host, with my two sisters. My FH's sister, also in the bridal party hasn't been asked to participate yet. Sorry, so many sisters. lol I'll give everyone the right info.

View Quoted Comment Haha it's okay! If you want her involved make sure she is. You may not be hosting the shower but you can definitely still have an opinion!

View Quoted Comment Giving a guest list is not micromanaging, provided you understand shower hostesses may invite as many as they want, not necessarily who you want. Traditional etiquette. But suggesting they ask someone else be a hostess too, is micromanaging if done by a bride. It should be up to the original volunteers to throw the shower, who they may ir may not want to help. . Your MOH already knows FSIL is in the wedding party. She may or may not want her help. That is the hostess choice, not the bride. As for trolling you, I haven't a clue who you are, I read only questions, not who posted them. By chance, we must have different viewpoints, though I haven't a clue about any other of your posts I may have answered. These are public forums. It happens, with no bad intent, that people with different viewpoints will intersect more than once.

I totally do not think that asking if someone else can be involved in helping plan is micromanaging in the slightest. I'd ask anyone who isn't participating that wants to if they'd like you to connect them with your brother's wife. No one should get offended that MORE people want to help plan a party- that'd be a little ridiculous. Besides, it's all for YOU!

View Quoted Comment Yes! I've already talk to my sister in law and she said the more the merrier so I have her the information.