Should we move after the wedding or before the wedding?

I highly highly highly recommend moving in together before you get married. It helps to get to know this person. I moved in with my DH three years into our relationship and we got married 6 years into being together. It helped us get to know each other and each other's habits.

We just bought a house and getting married in two months! It is crazy... If you can stay with your parent s until after the wedding, do so.

View Quoted Comment Thank you it is an option and would be nice to have our own place to go to after the wedding but we don’t want to be living apart after the wedding .

Our situation might be different because my FW is in the military and we were long distance. But we moved in after being together for 6 months, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. We learnt so much about each other, and it honestly made our relationship so much stronger.

I wouldn’t have married someone I hadn’t lived with first, but I know not everyone feels that way. I suggest finding a place prior to the wedding.

This is a personal choice. Living together is a huge change and can be very difficult for the first few years. This is the time when you truly learn your partner. Even if you have been together for a long time. I personally could not get married to my FH without living together first. My FH and I have lived together for 8 years now and the first 3 years were insanely difficult.

Some people would prefer to be married before moving in together in that is perfectly fine as well. I just personally couldn't do it. This is something you need to discuss with your FH and see how you guys want to handle this as a couple.

Buying a house, I would wait for maybe a year or so. Then start looking into it once you have learned to be on your own.

View Quoted Comment I agree it does make a difference my sister in law and brother were in the same exact position as you were and they did say it made a difference

View Quoted Comment Thank you this great advice , we have gotten a lot of chances sort of like a test run living together he would sometime sleep over at my parents house and stay for a few days and we seem to have no issues so far so somewhat have an idea what living together would be like

View Quoted Comment Staying together for a few nights at someone else’s house is a lot different than living together in a place where the two of you are solely responsible for everything.

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I also see that you are getting Married in December. So you have more than six months before the wedding and in that situation, you probably;y can find a nice rental apartment and still remain sane, haha! look for a place. if you find one you like, go for it

I would normally say you guys should move in together before getting married because it does add a whole new dimension to your relationship. However, I think thats an ideal situation when you're both living separately (pay rent, utilities, etc x2). Due to the fact that you're both still living at home, it will greatly help you out to not add those bills while trying to save for a wedding. I would suggest you move in together after the wedding, but "move" the essentials like furniture two weeks prior if possible. That way you can be halfway settled in and have a "home" to go to after you get married.

The decision whether to buy a house, and the decision whether to move in together, are really separate.

If you think you might be moving out of state soon, it's probably not a good idea to buy a house. While houses tend to appreciate over time, there is an up front cost to buying a house (in terms of commissions and financing costs), so it's probably not a good investment unless you intend to hold it for a while.

However, if both of you have always lived with your parents, it probably makes sense to move in together to a rented place now. It's a good idea to figure out whether you can live together before getting married.

Oh, and I would definitely wait until you've lived together to buy a house.

View Quoted Comment That is very, very different! No where even close to actually living together.

View Quoted Comment This is very good advice this definitely would be a considerable choice

I would definitely recommend moving in together before the wedding, but not buying a house. There's this belief among our parents' generation that buying is always better than renting, but that's not true.

View Quoted Comment Thank you and yeah they keep saying it’s an investment but my fiancé thinks we should try an apartment first and later consider a house.

I'd say move in together before the wedding. You still have plenty of time to find a place before then, and it will give you a decent amount of time to get used to each other before you tie the knot. You could always sign a month to month lease, or even just a one year lease. It will go by quicker than you think, especially with the whirlwind of wedding planning!

FH and I moved in together after about a year and a half of dating and then we got engaged after living together for about a year. Even though we were both pretty sure we would get married before we moved in together, it was still really helpful to make sure we could live together before we took that step. Is it possible for you two to rent a place until the wedding is over and then look to buy? I know plenty of couples buy a house while they are planning a wedding, but that seems pretty stressful from a financial and time commitment standpoint.

We are high school sweethearts as well. We lived with my parents till October 2016 and then moved out. It was a hell of an eye opener let me tell you. I would move before you get married. You learn alot about a person living with them. I know you live at your parents but it is for sure different on your own