Long time no post! (SO here is a long post.)
So a friend of ours is getting married in CA and we live in FL (where they used to live before they moved). This friend is a former co-worker of mine. Not a super-best friend or anything to that extent. We hung out a bit when we worked together and he stayed with us once in between apartments for a few days.
Anyways, they came to our wedding here in FL in Jan. and I know weddings are not tit for tat but we just got their STD in the mail and are really not sure if we should go. They sent the save the date (which said invite to follow) with an RSVP card. So I am assuming they want to know who is coming before sending actual invites. Not really how it works, but ok. The RSVP is due by October 1st, we just got it in the mail so we need to make the decision kind of quickly! So I need some opinions!
Looking at travel, flights for husband and I will be about $800 give or take, we will then need to rent a car for a few days (oh, their wedding is a Friday so we will need to take off work too, husbands will be un-paid). We also need an airbnb or hotel for a few nights so we are looking at spending well over $1000.
We want to go, they are our friends and my husband has never been to Malibu. But, we finally have our savings building up after paying for our wedding and my husband being laid off this past summer for a few months. We're in the middle of house projects, and we are hoping to start trying for a baby next year. I don't know if this is selfish, but I don't really want to spend all of that money just to go to someones wedding. Is that bad? I have a list of a million other things I could use that money for.
So would you try to make it? Or did I just talk myself into staying home? Of course we plan to send a gift if we stay home.