Should we cancel our wedding?

You can always have a small ceremony on your original date, and postpone your celebration until 2022! My fiance and I postponed our July 31, 2020 wedding to July 2022, due to limited venue availability and uncertainty of COVID for 2021. It wouldn't be ideal to have to wait two years to celebrate, but it would be something to look forward to in a stressful time. Otherwise, you could downsize your guest list and do a small ceremony and reception on your original date?

Hi date twin! So far we're holding strong on our date even with cases going up in NC. We cut our guest list by 60% back in May after the pandemic forced our first venue out of business and we had to start over. If we end up going back into Phase 1 (Safer at Home), we will have a mini-mony at home, probably even outside, with our immediate families and local friends only.

It absolutely sucks to not be able to celebrate with all our loved ones, but ultimately we don't want to put off being married and other goals for a whole year, let alone two. We decided to just invite everyone to an over the top house party after we buy a home next year to make up for it!

I would have a small ceremony on your original date (or perhaps move it up, and have parents, wedding party, officiant, siblings, grandparents in attendance? Why risk the delay!), you deserve to celebrate that! You are far enough out that you can probably postpone the reception itself if needed. I hate the idea of one year anniversaries, but you could do that if needed, perhaps? Our day was May 30th, we decided to postpone the reception (it might be moved again), but we did not want to delay starting our new life together! BTW, cheers for serving.

Hi, I am in Ohio too...10/24/20. I think it’s up to you since everyone’s situation is different. Maybe ask yourself these questions: Can I wait 1-2 years? What if the Coria isn’t gone, what’s my plan then? Is it worth losing out on money only for it to be postponed again? Do I have any high risk loved ones?


I can’t postpone without having to pay over 4K. It’s free if it’s Jan-March but I am sure the virus will still be a problem. I don’t see it going away for a while and things being normal so I don’t want to dress myself out another year! I am getting married unless Ohio drastically drops the group max to 10 because I want my family there. I’m also wanting to start a family soon and I’m already 31.

We’re 10/3 in PA and are eloping & postponing the bigger celebration until next year.

We got just invited to an October wedding that was a reschedule from March this year. It's a definite no for us because things are just too unpredictable. (Never thought we would still be in this situation if you asked me back in March!)

I think you’ll have a hard time getting people to commit. Even if they do, things could change enough that they elect to not take the risk even if they RSVP’d yes. Consider a very intimate wedding now and a one year anniversary party (maybe two year anniversary, whatever fits your situation and the whims of Covid) later that doesn’t require people to make tough decisions.

Given the gravity of what the world is facing, I don't think anyone will look back and say "wow, I can't believe we weren't invited to their wedding." This will become the interesting story that we tell future generations because we were "Covid" brides.

September 5th here too, except I am in Kansas City (cases are also on the rise). Originally we were supposed to be married May 16 and postponed to September. We have decided we are getting married that day no matter what - whether it's in our venue or we have to move it to an outdoor ceremony somewhere and find a way to celebrate (backyard party maybe?!). We were already having a small wedding (75 or under) and now I think we will be around 60 people so we can easily spread people out in our venue (it fits 200)... I have already updated our website to let people know that we plan on going forward and the things we are doing to keep people safe - Masks, sanitizer, spreading people out and sitting only with their familial groups, and what the venue has done (new filtration, etc). If it ends up we cannot be at the venue, then we will still get married like mentioned above. I know some people will be bummed they are missing out, or not feel safe so we created a private facebook group and I will have someone livestream the ceremony so people can still be a part of it. Likely our wedding won't be at all what we had planned, but focusing on we will be married and the people that mean the most will still be involved. I have struggled DAILY with whether we are doing the right thing - but I am following CDC guidelines and what our city is asking and as of right now you can host events at a venue with 50% capacity and under 100 people. If that changes I will certainly comply - I am just doing the best I can with the information that is available (from reputable sources and not opinions). Good luck date twin!

View Quoted Comment Hey guys I also want to say me and my husband are already married! We did a small intimate ceremony with family and then we’re having the big celebration. So now it just really comes down to are we going to be happy if half our guest don’t show because they’re scared? Will we be happy if no one can get up and dance? If we have to pay extra for our food to be served instead of the original buffet? Just a lot to consider and with us already being married it’s more of “do we want to take this risk?” Our insurance isn’t even letting you buy event insurance anymore.. so just a lot to figure out!

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I'm so sorry Tayler, it's such a hard decision! You could try to postpone the celebration until closer to your deployment, but there's also no guarantee that things will be better by then.

I'd try to still do some kind of celebration if you can - even if it's on the smaller side and socially distanced! 🎉

For a variety of reasons, postponing for a year or two wasn’t an option for us. I’m a medical student out of state and we planned our wedding for basically the only time we could make it work. We had a small church ceremony and backyard reception (parents, grandparents, and wedding party) on our original date, and postponed the reception from June 2020 to September 2020 in the hopes that things might change/improve by then. It is clear to us now that they have not and likely will not, so we decided to cancel our larger reception. It worked out well for us because even though it was no where near what we’d planned or imagined, we still had our first dances, cut a cake, heard the toasts, and got married! It was perfectly unperfect, and a good photographer friend (dating someone in the wedding party!) captured the entire day perfectly. I wouldn’t change a thing about our day!


If you have to cancel, do whatever you can to include all of the important things in a small ceremony or reception, and it will feel just as magical as you ever imagined. I know this is a huge decision and change and it definitely took me some time to get used to it and replan a smaller version of our wedding, but it was worth it. I wish you the best, and thank you for your service!!

Same date here! We are proceeding as normal and not letting this stop us from having the wedding we want. Our guests are more than welcome to bring a mask or not attend but we are not going to let this control our wedding. Our venue is at 50% capacity which is fine because our guest list was already at that number. I would say if you're comfortable going through with it to do it. I have heard so many negative and rude comments surrounding us keeping our wedding. Those who don't feel comfortable going will let you know that.

If your in ohio no go to insta and follow eleganteventsm look at the story no masks no social distancing .

View Quoted Comment Go look at eleganteventsm on insta this isnt the only wedding in Ohio that are foing on like nothing its insane

View Quoted Comment Yes that is definitely true. Our venue would have allowed us to continue with our original number of people (150) in September for a reception, but with many restrictions in place. Their plan was essentially not to allow people up from their tables. For us it was also a health concern, because cases are rising and we want to protect our family and friends above all else. Most people were extremely supportive and many even thankful we made the decision for them and they didn’t have to decide to come or not!

View Quoted Comment We canceled our wedding and have no plans to reschedule at this time! Thank you all for the words of wisdom but putting our families and friends health and safety at risk wasn’t a risk we were comfortable making. We have gotten most of our money back and have decided to put it into our first home. We’re already married so we just want to start moving forward with our lives.