Hi, ladies! I’m exactly three weeks out from my wedding day, and I’m wondering if I should add more gifts to our wedding registry. My bridal shower guests were exceedingly generous, so so 50% of the gifts on our registry list have been purchased already, and there are only 79 items left (127 guests will be attending our wedding, and 140 guests declined). There are definitely more things I could add, but there are a few essentials remaining (bedding, towels, vacuum) that we’d really like to receive, so I’m wondering if adding more non-essential gifts would make it less likely that we’ll receive the basics? I want to provide enough options, but I’d like to cover our needs before we add more ‘wants’, if that makes sense!
I would leave it as is. Are physical weddings gifts common in your social circle? In my area, physical gifts off the registry are typically purchased for the shower and then guests give cash/checks for the wedding itself.
Add anything you want to the registry. Sometimes things are discontinued and other guests are on lower budgets so all the low budget items are often swiped up first. What is common in your social circle? In our families and friends, no one gives cash gifts and physical items are given at the shower and wedding day.
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Honestly, I’m not entirely sure! Weddings aren’t common in my family (most of my cousins skipped the wedding part and went straight to having kids lol), and my wedding will be the third wedding in my family (extended family included) since I’ve been alive (the first two were for a single cousin, now remarried). My aunt called my mom last week and asked how we were going to be getting all of our gifts back to Indiana (getting married in my hometown in Texas), so on my side, I’m not sure if people are going to go the card route or the physical gift route. FH is expecting most of his family will send gifts from the registry in their absence (they’re all in the Midwest and travel was too expensive for 70% of them), so I’d imagine they’d send gifts rather than sending cards? Maybe I’ll just see what the registry is looking like a week out from the wedding and go from there!
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Surprisingly, we actually had most of our big ticket items swiped up first (Waterford crystal, small appliances, china, silver, home theater system, KitchenAid mixer, etc.)! Most of the smaller items (small kitchen and baking tools, hangers, bathroom accessories, a few serving pieces) are still available, along with our last few bigger-ticket essentials (down comforter, towels, vacuum, sheets). I added a Waterford Lismore ring holder to the registry yesterday morning (kind of on a whim because I thought it was really pretty), and someone had purchased it by the end of the day. I haven’t been to many weddings, and I’m only the second person in my generation of cousins to get married (see previous comment), so I’m not sure if I can rely on traditional etiquette. I’m thinking most of our guests want to feel like they’re buying us something unique and special that we’ll remember them for, and no one wants to be the boring one that buys us a set of sheets or a duvet cover 😂 We’re very grateful either way! Just hoping for the last few things we really need!
In the last couple weeks before the wedding, my daughter added some lower-priced items (they had about 30+ twenty-something friends attending and she was concerned there weren't many low-cost items left after the shower, etc.). That proved to be wise, some of their friends bought things in the last couple days before the wedding from the items she added last minute. (She also received virtually everything on her registry -- especially all the big-ticket items, many at her shower. They also received a large number of cash/check gifts -- mostly from the relatives & older guests.) Variety isn't bad: guests who want to buy a down comforter will, but others might be looking for a less expensive option.
I would leave the registry as is since there are still many options for people to choose from. Based on what some of my friends said, the older people/family will most likely give you cash/checks, but friends will give you a physical gift, but will send it to your home/the address listed on the registry.