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Just Said Yes August 2019

Sharing Wedding shower

Lauren, on April 29, 2019 at 10:31 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 9
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My brother and I are very close, and our wedding are a week apart in August. I am also close with his fiancee (she is a bridesmaid) and we have planned a lot of shared events between the two of us. Recently her sister booked a day for a bridal shower for her, which I am happy to go to and it will likely he mostly her friends and family. However, my Mom has just informed me that she will be hosting a bridal shower for the two of us. I don't know how I feel about sharing the bridal shower too when we are sharing virtually everything else wedding-related. Not to mention she already has her own shower. I can see that my mom would want to celebrate both of us with friends and family, but I would hate it and would feel so guilty if we shared the day and the guests paid more attention to one of us and not the other (almost every guest knows me and not her). Am I the jerk for not wanting to share? How to I approach the situation without seeming like a controlling bridezilla?

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Latest activity by Jo, on June 7, 2019 at 3:24 PM
  • Rachael
    Dedicated June 2019
    Rachael ·
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    No! You shouldn't feel bad. You only get one bridal shower, and it should be yours!! I'd think if you're just honest with your mom she'd understand and you won't sound like a bridezilla.

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  • C
    Super January 2020
    Cassie ·
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    I would just explain to your mom what you just explained here. You deserve to have your own shower as does she. I think she will understand.
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  • Mandy
    VIP May 2019
    Mandy ·
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    No, I'd tell my mom that Sally already has a shower planned. As much as you love her, you'd really like to keep the showers separate so guests aren't confused and so you also have your own moment.

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  • Formerbride
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    Formerbride ·
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    I agree with PP. I will say this, I didn't care about a shower. I thought it would be so annoying and I feel uncomfortable being the center of attention. I was overwhelmed to the point of tears multiple times that day. I couldn't imagine if I had to worry about someone else's feelings that day like you have mentioned.

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  • VIP September 2019
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    I don't think it is selfish especially since her mother is hosting a shower for her. I would just explain exactly what you mentioned her. I don't see it being an issue
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  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·
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    Agree with PP, since she already has a shower planned I don't think you should have to share yours.

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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
    Cristy ·
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    That's really nice of your mom to want to host a shower for both of you. But I think I would want that one day to myself, especially since you said you and the FSIL are sharing some other events. Take this one for yourself. Just explain to your mom that FSIL is already having a shower hosted by her mom, and you would really like to have your own, hosted by her. Should be no problem.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Tell your mom what you said here. As a guest, I might skip a double shower due to awkwardness of not knowing the other bride and wondering if I have to buy a gift for the one I don’t know?
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  • Jo
    WeddingWire Administrator May 2015
    Jo ·
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    Hi Lauren, were you able to have your showers separately? How did your mother react when you brought your concerns up to her?

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