Sex Question- Very Open and Honest

More than anything I feel that communication is key. If you and your partner respond to different things, it is best to tell them what you like. I am not sure if you are feeling a lack of romance or a lack of attraction? More info would help.

View Quoted Comment I think that’s exactly what we are going through at the moment but we have both talked about it and we are getting better. So communication about what we like and what we don’t like. Got it. Thank you.

Hmm my FH and I are very sexually compatible and if you wanna spice things up maybe try lingerie, strawberries and whip cream, using a blindfold, or even give him a lap Dance. You can be very creative when it comes to sex. Even try asking what your partner is open to trying and likes.

I believe we could talk about sex here. Sex is very important in marriage.


I and my dh are married for 23 years and we both were our first sex partners too. So, we had no experience but we made and we are making more experience along these years.
In the beginning I was super shy. Well, we both are. But with time, we get fiery. I must say, we both compatible with how often we want it. We do it almost everyday, and often 2-3x a day.
I do had problems where I got bored, and I don’t feel like it anymore, because it became a routine. Kiss, open clothes, do, done. I discussed with dh about me wanting something different to keep my fire. Dh in the other hand never get bored, and he was getting insecure because he thought I was bored of him 🙄. After I explained hundreds of time that he is fine, he gets it. And now he is accepting “my change”.
I got very interested of a deeper experience of sex. I bought sex books and, sex tools, and tons of lingeries. We are not into porn, so I get all the tricks from reading text books. No pictures, just a few illustrations.
I must say, we learn quite a lot and we enjoyed our sex routine now. Every time is always a bit or a lot different, and sometimes we do surprises too.
With those being said, we all need to be open, communicate, accept, tolerate, and understand our partner needs. If you feel you are compatible with your partner then something has to be done. Do not neglect it, ever.
I am following a great marriage advice on Instagram, and they do talk about sex too. I love listening to them. It’s called marriage365.
Good luck!🥂

* If you feel you are INcompatible with your partner then something has to be done.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much Belle! This was great, helpful information. 😍

You know i don't think it's a bad thing for couples in general to spice things up every now and then. it's just to try out new things that may be fun or that you may not have known that you'd like. for instance stuff like toys or things that will help the experience more like different lubes and what not

It is always nice to try something new. Maybe trying something small at first like being blindfolded. It helps heighten your senses when you can't see what the other person is about to do. You should also be open to discussing things that you might want to try.

View Quoted Comment Thank you ladies!

Communication is definitely key!! With age things change but can still be very satisfying. My husband is approaching his 70s and me my 60s so spontaneity can be a challenge. However, both of us are very in tune with each other’s needs and wants, and he is very much a romantic, which makes intimacy even more special.

View Quoted Comment What fountain of youth are YOU two drinking from?? I'm gonna need directions

Communication is key! Talk with your partner and ask if they feel like something is missing and what it might be. Talk in depth about what each of you are and are not willing to try. Maybe start small and do food play or role play. Or if that is something you have already done maybe investigate into the kink world. Express your fantasies and ask for theirs. Maybe bring toys into the bedroom. The possibilities are endless. I also highly recommend listening to the Savage Lovecast. It’s a podcast hosted by Dan Savage where people will Q&A a bunch of different relationship and sex questions and he answers them. This is a common thing within long termed relationships, especially women. Episode 695 covers a lot in this. Hopefully this helps!

View Quoted Comment Love this!!!!!!! How fun and exciting!

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LOL that’s so sweet!! We just try to eat right, and exercise almost every day. Feeling great!

View Quoted Comment That definitely helps, but I seriously need some of your genes

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View Quoted Comment UPDATE: hi everyone.... everyday since Monday has been absolutely insane... lol in a good way 😏😍🤤 we communicated and that was the best thing we have ever done. Felt like the beginning of our relationship again... my sex drive has been super high lately. Thanks everyone for your help!

My fiance' and I are waiting until we get our marriage license ... Not even the ceremony, lol. My best friend teases me by saying what if we're sexually incompatible and find out after being married. I'm not worried. This is both our 2nd marriage and we've agreed, no matter what, we'll make it work. We understand exploring is best and we're willing to take our time, learning what each other likes. We're so in love; so we'll find our happy space together.