Seperate Vacations as Newlyweds/Committed

I think it's healthy for my FH to have a social life outside of our relationship. Not the single man's social life, but you know what I mean lol. I encourage him to go to DC and Kentucky to see his buddies and have man time. He does the same for me! I don't want him to feel like now that I'm around he can't still go out and have fun. Do the same things he did before (within reason). I get what your saying, but sometimes you just gotta let him do what he wants. I'd totally go to Mexico with the girls!

Sorry this is badly typed out... I just woke up and still haven't had any coffee lol

If we did absolutely everything together, always, then we would have nothing to talk about. I am completely against the concept that your husband/wife needs to be the only person you experience life with and quite frankly I think it's unhealthy.

I do, however, understand not being able to afford a vacation with a friend AND your husband. Or not having the vacation time to do both. But I would have a blast going on a trip with a friend.

Go to Mexico!

You're married, not the same person. Some separation in your lives is good!

I would go to Mexico with the girls ! In fact, me & one of my best friends are planning a trip to Disney together. You're married, not chained together... lol You both need some kind of separation and fun with your friends.

FH and I have no problem taking small trips without each other. Sometimes I think they are needed to maintain your personal identity. FH went out to Reno last spring to go to his friend's wedding and was there for about 3 days...in June I went to New Orleans for 4 days with girlfriends, but thats about the max amount of time we spend apart on solo trips

I think its as important in a relationship to have time apart as it is to spend time together. its never healthy to focus all your time and energy on just one thing.

I mean if you are both okay with it, I guess enjoy your trip to Mexico.

In my case, I travel for work & I work days & my FH goes to night school, I dont see him enough as it is, & so we wouldn't take a vacation apart, but that isnt everyone!

My FH and I don't travel separate very often, but there are times we do. I am active in the teacher's union, so I have to go to meetings on Saturdays occasionally and he doesn't come along to those even though I am gone for the entire weekend due to distance. Also, many summers I travel for the national union meetings and he doesn't come to those either.

My FH & I have been together almost 14 yrs. I must admit, the 1st 8 yrs or so, we hadn't traveled separately. I never really wanted to go anywhere without him. I too thought it was odd to want to do so.

Then b/c of work I was traveling back & forth for a year, often requiring me to be gone a week at a time! At first I thought I was going to die, then I started to enjoy It lol.

Since then we have done several separate trips, with friends, with my daughter, etc.

A strong healthy relationship grows while together & apart.

Research actually supports the idea of spending time apart, having your own hobbies and friends and so on. I love girl's night and girl's trips!! I've also noticed that I am always more excited to see FH after he's been gone (I'm always happy to see him, but you know what I mean) and we always have really good ummm.... after we've been apart for a little bit.

DO it. Especially if you don't have kids yet. Because any kind of trip, with or without your SO gets much harder once the chilren (in my Madea voice) start arriving.

I would be ok with him traveling and taking trips with his buddies. Honestly though we can barely afford 1 vacation let alone two, and we work totally opposite schedules so I think we'd be kind of bummed to spend what little time we have together apart.

You are joined at the heart, not the hip. Experiencing life separately at times makes for more well-rounded people.

I'll say this, I wouldn't be likely to go on a trip with the girls whether I was tied down or not. So no we don't really travel separately. I have gone to stay with my sister and help her out after she's had babies and needed some help but we aren't big travellers so when we do go, it's together. That's not to say we don't do things apart from each other. But we are both homebodies so travelling us a rarity for us!

Fh used to travel for work, gone 4-6 weeks. He would come home for the occasional night and depending on where I would visit him. Last year he was away for a work conference (5 day cruise) and we couldn't afford for me to go so he went solo. 2 years ago, same situation. I go home and visit my friends over long weekends and leave him behind. What works for us may not for everyone

We're really just now getting to the point where we can actually afford to go on more than one big trip, but we've each done smaller weekend trips with just our friends. I think you should take trips without your s/o, but there are some people I know that never travel with their husbands. I find that a bit odd.

We do. Last spring we had separate vacations. It was nice! FH hates the beach, and I love it.

For small trips, no big deal. But a couple other ladies have mentioned, that each of us only gets a certain amount of vacation days each year, and I wouldn't want him to use those up without me and all the other days of the year, we just slog through the grind together. Also, we both love to travel, so I would be totally jealous if he said to me, bye, honey, I'm going to Italy without you! Lastly, during the course of our relationship, we have both traveled a lot for work (heck, he was deployed to Afghanistan for 7 months!) so we do like to spend time together in different places.

I've gone on vacation without him, and him without me. As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder

We've gone on vacations without each other. This past November FH went to Georgia to go hunting with his dad so I took my mom and daughter to Mall of America for a weekend. It was nice to have a girl's weekend and he enjoyed his time with his dad and the guys where they go hunting. We'll probably do the same thing this year a well where he goes to Georgia and the girls go to the mall.

Had to go out-of-state for a nephew's wedding w/o DH. Neither of us was happy to be apart that long (I think it was about 3 nights/4 days). And we had been married for 19 years at that point.

But, locally we do things w/o each other (work our separate businesses, networking events, evening w/friends). We've been married 27 years and still like to be with each other.

I would love a vacation to Mexico, with or without FH, but if you can afford it why not go? Talk to you DH and see how he feels about it, but I don't see anything wrong with going on vacation with your girlfriends