Second Wedding

A second wedding as in you had a small one and postponed your big one, or as in a 2nd marriage?

My fiance and I are having a simple minimony in October but our wedding isn't until March. We aren't expecting any gifts or anything for our minimony, and although we will "technically" be married before our actual wedding, we will still be having a bridal shower. So in my opinion I don't see a problem, unless you already had a bridal shower then it may seem greedy. But I am sure some "traditionalist" will comment saying that its rude, etc. But I don't see a problem with it if you haven't already had one.

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Thank you Yasmine!

View Quoted Comment Personally I wouldn’t see a problem with it as long as someone is throwing it for you, not you throwing it yourself. I would go to a shower if one of my friends was getting married again.

I think that’s fine to

I see no problem with it, this is a new start with new people and they should be included in everything your first had

If you have friends who wish to give a shower for you, go and enjoy it. Tradition has long been that starter household items, like small appliances, kitchen things, be given only at a first wedding. Or, one time by any particular family member or friend. Since a shower present is in addition to wedding gift, a total of two gifts, you may find many of your long term friends and your relatives will simply give a wedding gift this time.
But when a lot of time has gone by, you likely have friends who were not around at the time of your first wedding, who will happily give a second gift, and enjoy seeing you open it. As for long timers, there is no predicting. But if they volunteer, or if a shower hosess talks to your good friends for a long time and says there will be a party, would they like to be invited to the shower? Then you can get a handle on who among old friends wants to give again, to make it easier planning a shower. I have given second showers where people said, I gave once ( and have no intention...). Others make it clear a lot of time has gone, by, so they must need all new. And if it is the second or third in very few years, a lot comment on the marriage turned out too short for anything from the first to be out of warranty, something of a negative moral judgement. It is not a responsibility of the bridal party to do a shower, or bach. It can be done by any close friend or relative. Since wedding parties are made up of close friends, often they volunteer. But older brides more often have a few in the wedding party, or none. But 1 SIL, a sister or aunt, and a couple friends can easily band together as hostesses. I like doing showers where they are not on top of getting dresses and lodgings and other budget busters, and so do a lot of others.

I wouldn't see a problem with it! If you were my friend, I'd want to celebrate your marriage with you (as long as I was invited to the wedding) regardless if it was your first or second or third (or whatever) marriage.