It is totally up to you. We aren't inviting out of town guests. We invited our bridal party plus their significant others which includes our siblings. Both sets of parents. His parents are divorced. His mom is single, but we gave her a plus one and his dad is engaged so we invited his fiancee. My fiance's nieces and nephews are our flower girls, ring bearer, and usher so we included them and their parents which is my fiance's older brother and his wife. My grandparents on my mother's side because my grandmother is doing a reading at our wedding. We also invited the officiant and his wife, but they don't know us and have elected not to attend.
It really depends! I've been to ones that are just bridal party + dates + immediate family, I've been to ones that included aunts/uncles/cousins, and ones that included out of town guests. We will have around 70 people at ours and that includes our wedding party + date, immediate family, and aunts/uncles/cousins, so no out of town guests.
I told my MIL that we could just do wedding party and their families but she didn't want people sitting alone at the hotel so we opened it up to include anybody who was around! It was a lot of fun even though the hubby and I were an hour late
We have to do a pretty early rehearsal due to the venues schedule. So an early dinner as well. We are only inviting immediate family and those in the bridal party. Afterwards, however, my parents are hosting a welcome party at their home and including all of the out of town guests.
I think the new thing within the last couple of years is to invite out-of-town guests as a thank you. Our wedding is out-of-town so that would mean we have to invite everyone. However, we can not afford that. So we are doing wedding party only (including who we asked to be our witnesses) and and then opening it up to all guests afterwards for drinks!
I think it really depends on the area and the family. Our families are both from the Midwest and it's always been wedding party, immediate family, and OOT guests. That puts us at 50 people if we just look at those we are sure will come.
I have also heard just those involved in the wedding, wedding party and immediate family...
Also, try to remember, just because they are OOT does not mean they will automatically be in town the night before. I have a friend getting married in AZ 2 weeks before my wedding and with all the stuff I will have going on and not having any extra time to take off work I won't be flying in until the morning of the wedding.
We're inviting bridal party, immediate family (parents, siblings, and grandparents) and all out of town relatives. We also have a lot of out of town guests, and a lot of local relatives so it would have been a second wedding if we had included everyone who fell into one of those boxes!
I wouldn't invite out of town guests because they are not remotely involved in the wedding party. I think it could be situational. Like someone else said the OOT guests are staying with parents, then it'd be kinda weird not to. Some people have entire families that are in different states. That doesn't really work to host another huge event the night before.
At that point it sounds like you're inviting nearly your whole guest list. Maybe have after dinner drinks with the out-of-towners?
Our rehearsal dinner is limited to bridal party and guests, parents, siblings, and the kids in the party. We are having some of my FH's family from out-of-town but there's only going to be 5 of them. A majority of my family is local or comes home often so we've extended an open invite for drinks at the hotel bar.
The only ones that should be invited to rehearsal is immediate family (parents, grandparents, siblings) and those that are in the wedding party who will be participating at the actual rehearsal.
These are the only ones we are including at our rehearsal as well as the spouses of the wedding party (not required we are just including), and my aunt because she is allowing me to stay at her house the night before the wedding,