So I'm trying to plan my rehearsal dinner, and i know the wedding party, flower girls, and my ring bearer will be there, but i'm not sure about inviting anyone else. we have about 90 people coming to the wedding, including me, fh, and our 8 bms and 8 gms, our 2 fgs and our ring bearer. so the wedding party alone is 21 people. Including our immediate families (his mom, my mom, my brother, my dad and step mom), it brings guest count to 26, and i know FH will want his grandparents there, so we would be inviting my grandma too. My mom wants to invite out of town guests too, but if we invite out of town guests, it brings the guest count to like 50, which is way more than i would like. Is it more of a judgment call on who to invite, or would it be rude to not invite some out of town guests and only invite some to the rehearsal dinner?
Also, our rehearsal dinner is going to be super casual- at a park, with everyone dressing down in pj's or sweats. FH and i will be in Pj's, so it's not like it's formal or anything. It's a complete opposite to the actual wedding, which we're doing black tie creative.