Anna
Just Said Yes October 2019

Rehearsal dinner mixup

Anna, on October 10, 2019 at 1:06 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 10
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So my wedding is a week away! Yay! But I had an aunt text me today, upset that she wasn’t invited to the rehearsal dinner. We sent out formal invitations to grandparents, parents, and bridal party. We are holding our rehearsal dinner at a really upscale restaurant, and wanted to keep the numbers down. If I invite this aunt, I would have to invite 12 more aunts and uncles. I don’t think she realizes that, and has taken the situation personal and has said that she was sorry to think she was part of my family. I told her that we were keeping it small and that I’ll see her at the wedding and of course she is part of my family. I can’t sleep, and idk what to do, help.

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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    Your response was perfect. She is being rude. It is very common to invite immediate family only along with the bridal party and their SOs. Don't worry about it anymore. You did nothing wrong.

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  • Renee
    Super November 2020
    Renee ·
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    It sounds like she's over reacting and being dramatic. Especially the part where she said that she was sorry to think she was part of your family. That was rude and uncalled for. I wouldn't worry about it. If she brings it up again, tell her it's only for the wedding party and parents and change the subject. You did nothing wrong.

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  • F
    October 2020
    Fleur ·
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    Can you have your mother or father intervene here? Someone needs to tactfully give this woman a reality check, and inform her not to contact the bride at this moment unless it's to offer help or sincere congratulations. No-one should give a bride this kind of anxiety right before the big day. Sheesh!

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  • Amber
    Rockstar February 2020
    Amber ·
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    As all PP's said, you did nothing wrong. When it comes to weddings, so many people think they're entitled to this or entitled to that. It's ridiculous. Try not to let it get to you, you're almost to the big day!

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  • Devin
    Super October 2019
    Devin ·
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    You did Nothing wrong. We aren’t inviting aunt/uncles either.
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  • Taylor
    Rockstar October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    It's not about her. She needs to get over herself. You've said your peace and did so in a very elegant way. Don't stress. It will all be okaySmiley smile You're SO close!!! CongratsSmiley heart

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  • Anna
    Expert August 2020
    Anna ·
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    Your response was perfect. I'm so sorry she is being like this.

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Rockstar December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I agree that she's acting very entitled and rude. Stick to your original RD guest list!

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  • Anna
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Anna ·
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    Thank you to al of your responses! It really did calm my nerves. You are all right, I just need to let it go! ❄️
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  • Tara
    Super November 2016
    Tara ·
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    It's not uncommon to not invite aunts and uncles to a rehearsal dinner. And really, they're not a big deal. They're just to go over the details of the actual ceremony. If she's not involved in the ceremony at all, there's no reason for her to be at the rehearsal dinner. Just explain to her that you're trying to keep costs down and couldn't afford to invite all aunts and uncles. Hopefully she's understanding! Or, maybe have a little get together somewhere (hotel lobby, someone's house, etc.) after the rehearsal dinner just to have a glass of wine or coffee or whatever and invite her to that?!

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