So my wedding is a week away! Yay! But I had an aunt text me today, upset that she wasn’t invited to the rehearsal dinner. We sent out formal invitations to grandparents, parents, and bridal party. We are holding our rehearsal dinner at a really upscale restaurant, and wanted to keep the numbers down. If I invite this aunt, I would have to invite 12 more aunts and uncles. I don’t think she realizes that, and has taken the situation personal and has said that she was sorry to think she was part of my family. I told her that we were keeping it small and that I’ll see her at the wedding and of course she is part of my family. I can’t sleep, and idk what to do, help.
It sounds like she's over reacting and being dramatic. Especially the part where she said that she was sorry to think she was part of your family. That was rude and uncalled for. I wouldn't worry about it. If she brings it up again, tell her it's only for the wedding party and parents and change the subject. You did nothing wrong.
Can you have your mother or father intervene here? Someone needs to tactfully give this woman a reality check, and inform her not to contact the bride at this moment unless it's to offer help or sincere congratulations. No-one should give a bride this kind of anxiety right before the big day. Sheesh!
As all PP's said, you did nothing wrong. When it comes to weddings, so many people think they're entitled to this or entitled to that. It's ridiculous. Try not to let it get to you, you're almost to the big day!
It's not uncommon to not invite aunts and uncles to a rehearsal dinner. And really, they're not a big deal. They're just to go over the details of the actual ceremony. If she's not involved in the ceremony at all, there's no reason for her to be at the rehearsal dinner. Just explain to her that you're trying to keep costs down and couldn't afford to invite all aunts and uncles. Hopefully she's understanding! Or, maybe have a little get together somewhere (hotel lobby, someone's house, etc.) after the rehearsal dinner just to have a glass of wine or coffee or whatever and invite her to that?!
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