Rehearsal dinner guests

Anyone involved in the ceremony, your immediate family, and all of their significant others. If the pastor is marrying you, then yes, him and his wife. I’m not sure what your definition of a personal attendant is. If it’s a friend who will basically run errands for you on your wedding day, yeah I think you owe it to them to invite them to the RD.

View Quoted Comment Yes, That is my definition of personal attendants

We are having the bridal party and their SOs, close (grandparents, aunts/uncles) family, and out of town guests, so about 40 people counting us. Our officiant is FH's uncle, so he and his wife and kids are invited anyway.

Parents, FHs grandma, siblings, nieces and nephews, bridal party and their guests, and officiant will be at the rehearsal and dinner.
We did extend a dinner invitation to a couple of our of towners as a welcome.
Well be looking at 30-40 guests.

Ettiquette is anyone that 's in the wedding and their SO. If you have OOT guests already there at the time of it then you can invite them too but is not neccessary (I say it depends on their situation). For me I will have the parents, bp+their SOs, uncles aunts and cousins (his side is all in the wedding as officicant, FG, RBs and GM) and OOT guests already arrived since the ones I believe will be here at the time will be ones staying with my family thats coming so I'm not leaving them alone in a house not theirs all awkward haha. My uncles side is invited even not in the wedding (besides my cousin whose an adult) because everyone else is and I don't want them left out. So I have a big list haha

My future mother in law only came up with 15...my list is 25...and that’s the smaller list. I have aunts and uncles I’d like to invite but once you invite one you gonna invite them all so I have decided on no aunts or uncles (none are in the wedding either)

It really depends! For sure include your parents & bridesmaids/groomsmen & their spouses. Sometimes people include out of state guests. We invited 75 people, which included immediate family, wedding party/spouses/kids, cousins/aunts/uncles, and my MOHs parents.