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Savvy November 2019

Rehearsal dinner Guests

Imamanda12, on September 30, 2019 at 3:58 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 6

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So we are getting an estimate on our rehearsal dinner and there is a disagreement between my fiancé and my mom. We have 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen plus a flower girl and ring bearer. Three of my bridesmaids are cousins of mine, two of which are under 16 years old and would require an adult to drive them to the rehearsal dinner. My mom thinks we need to invite the bridesmaid and her two parents plus her brother. So thats a total of 6 extra people who are not wedding party members. Not only does she think I should invite the family of the two underage girls but she also said I should invite the older cousins family as well. Because its not fair to invite the other two and not them. This brings the total to 9 extra people who are not part of the bridal party. My fiancé disagrees with this and thinks the underage girls can have one accompanying adult with them and thats it. I agree with him but I also don't want to make anyone mad that they aren't invited. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance!

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Latest activity by Future Mrs. Danger, on September 30, 2019 at 4:49 PM

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MrsD · on September 30, 2019 at 4:19 PM
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I agree. If they are young enough to need adult drivers, the adults should be invited to the dinner. I think it's super odd to say "one parent can come, no more than that" because that would be weird. Who is paying for the RD? They should really make this decision.
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Caytlyn · on September 30, 2019 at 4:21 PM
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I personally would invite the parents and siblings of the underage bridesmaids. I would find it super awkward to say "yeah, Aunt Kim, I need you to bring Cousin Courtney to my RD, but Uncle Bob has to stay home." I mean, these are your family members, it's not like you have a 16 year old friend who wants to bring her random parents that you've never met.
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Imamanda12 · on September 30, 2019 at 4:31 PM
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Yeah I agree with that being awkward lol he’s paying for the rehearsal dinner so I’m just going to tell him I don’t think it’s appropriate not to invite the family. I don’t know what to do about the older cousin. But thanks for your input!
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Julia · on September 30, 2019 at 4:39 PM
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I agree you should invite both parents. You should not have to invite the siblings or the older cousins family. It’s a rehearsal dinner for those involved in the wedding it’s not a social hour.
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Da Mom · on September 30, 2019 at 4:41 PM
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Yes, typically if you have someone underage in the wedding party, then their family is invited to the RD. I disagree that the older cousin's family needs to be invited though. I get where your mom is coming from, but it's not necessary.
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Future Mrs. Danger · on September 30, 2019 at 4:49 PM
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Given that the young bridesmaids probably are relying on their parents to pay for their dress, shoes and whatever else you require, your mom may have a point. Its not like they just need transportation, the whole thing was likely financed by their parents, so not inviting them to the RD would be rude.
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