Margaret
Expert March 2018

Rehearsal brunch?

Margaret, on December 14, 2017 at 8:03 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 20
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Sorry that I just posted, but I have a more serious question.

If you were to attend a ceremony rehearsal, would you be okay having a rehearsal brunch before the rehearsal? I know it's customary to have the meal afterward. FH's parents have offered to pay/plan and this is what they would like to do. What do you think?

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  • Joanna
    Expert October 2017
    Joanna ·
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    I would only be concerned that the bridal party (and myself, who am I kidding? Lol) would be hitting the mimosas a little hard at brunch and then not pay any attention at the rehearsal.

    Rehearsals themselves are not really necessary unless you have an unusual venue layout or if no one has ever been in a wedding before and so everyone is in need of some general guidance.

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  • Megan
    Expert September 2017
    Megan ·
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    If it were me, I would ask if your FIL might host a brunch the day after your wedding, seems more fitting. You can entirely skip the rehearsal if you want.

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  • Margaret
    Expert March 2018
    Margaret ·
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    We have a super unusual layout so I want to make sure everyone is on the same page. It's basically a bunch of winding paths that meet on a bridge.

    I have made sure all the VIPs can be there as well! Everyone is coming in Friday for the Saturday wedding. Another thought was to just have me and FH and officiant go to the space, and me being the kind of person I am, make a map and layout of who is coming and going from/to where.

    @Joanna we're in Wisconsin, so that's a given! Haha we're no strangers to day drinking.

    So if we only do the rehearsal with me, FH and officiant, would it be appropriate to say that while we totally appreciate them paying for a rehearsal, we would welcome the funds for that going toward our catering? I just don't want to be rude.

    Thanks all!

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  • Margaret
    Expert March 2018
    Margaret ·
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    Here is the ceremony venue. As you can see it has so many possibilities for where to stand and where to walk from.


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  • H
    November 2018
    happeningmom ·
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    If everyone is available go ahead and do it. Nothing is written in stone anymore...everyone needs to do what is best for them and their unique day.

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  • FutureMrsM
    Super July 2018
    FutureMrsM ·
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    @OP Beautiful venue. I can definitely see why you want a rehearsal lol

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  • Margaret
    Expert March 2018
    Margaret ·
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    @MrsM Thanks! They also change the layout every few months, so there could be props, different flower beds, even a gazebo added by the time we are married there. The theme they are changing it to is "Spring Equinox," which is happening just a few weeks before our wedding.

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  • Megan
    Expert September 2017
    Megan ·
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    So pretty...If your people will be there go for it, maybe do the brunch and then rehearsal for a later start? If you have a DOC then even with the layout, it isn't necessary, but if it makes you feel better do it.

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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
    OG Kathryn ·
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    NM

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  • Margaret
    Expert March 2018
    Margaret ·
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    @Kathryn gotcha

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  • Rosered
    Devoted January 2019
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    Check when people are arriving. If everyone will be there by the time you want brunch to start I think it sounds nice. If they won't be then you could run into a situation where someone goes to the rehearsal but doesn't get fed and that seems rude.

    I wouldn't try to redirect he money your in-laws offered for the rehearsal though. If you don't want a rehearsal, you can tell them that and see if they offer to pay for something else, but don't ask.

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  • edecker
    Super May 2020
    edecker ·
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    I think its fine so long as you don't make them rehearse past dinner time. I think its a great idea to do a brunch rehearsal instead of an evening rehearsal anyways! great idea!

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  • Margaret
    Expert March 2018
    Margaret ·
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    @rosered good point. I wasn't sure if that was ok or not. Your solution seems better.

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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
    OG Kathryn ·
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    Sorry, I was way behind you already had answered my questions lol.

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  • Sarah
    Devoted February 2018
    Sarah ·
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    We're doing this. The only time we could schedule our rehearsal was at 2pm, so we're having lunch/brunch from 1130-130 and then the rehearsal at 2. After that the rest of the afternoon is free for everyone to enjoy.

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  • Bailey
    Devoted January 2018
    Bailey ·
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    We are having a quick rehearsal and brunch before our wedding. I'll try to remember to post how it goes for you!

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  • Celia Milton
    January 2020
    Celia Milton ·
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    I'm always on team no rehearsal. Asking your BP to essentially practice walking and standing and probably take PTO to do it? Nope. And the rehearsal itself is not the time to decide on the processional, entry point, etc. That should be in place before you rehearse or it will take you forever to run through it.

    If you have a coordinator, talk to them. Odds are they have done dozens, if not hundreds of weddings and they know exactly what works.

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  • FutureMrsW
    VIP March 2018
    FutureMrsW ·
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    Girl, I'm doing this too! A rehearsal brunch just fit in better with our overall timeline than a dinner. Due to our venue being really popular, we can't do a rehearsal the night before. The latest we can do one is in the morning the day before the wedding. It just makes sense to take everyone out to brunch right after and then let them move on with their day.

    The majority of us are big brunchers too, so we're looking forward to it.

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