Rehearsal and bridal shower

We asked for no kids at our wedding, we put "Adults only, make it a date night!". I think you can also spread it by word of mouth, but putting on the invite is the only sure way to keep kids out (even though we love them!).

I have been told it makes it more challenging for people to come because they need to find daycare.

We are inviting kids to the wedding but not the shower or the rehearsal (besides our flower girl and ring bearer). On our bridal shower invites we just addressed it to the lady we were inviting and then on the actual invite we just called it an adult only brunch. We kind of lucked out with the rehearsal because no one participating in our wedding has kids yet!

I would add something after the ceremony like “adult reception to follow” or something along those lines. Some people will say to put it on your website or only address it to those that are invited, which are good but I can tell you that I have never once looked at someone’s wedding website.

Are people traveling to the wedding with their kids? It will be hard for them to find a babysitter/daycare during the rehearsal dinner if so.

View Quoted Comment At our wedding we are only having family children only. One bridesmaid has 2 children and they wont be invited to the wedding.
One of my bridesmaid is my cousin she lives in SC- she has two small children they are invited to the wedding but her husbands parents and siblings live literally 10 minutes from me, so it shouldnt be an issue for them to watch the kids during the rehearsal dinner

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I'd inform her in advance just so she can plan, privately. She will have to make sure the parents or siblings are okay watching them, are available, and make sure she is okay with it.

View Quoted Comment I agree. I do plan on telling her privately. My mom also has told her mom about it.
Ultimately she will have to be okay with it, we have a small amount of time we have the venue to set up and rehearsal so it would definitely work better without children. Also my fh and I agreed no children at bridal shower or rehearsal dinner, due to us not having any of these children in the wedding or in the ceremony

You don't. It is not polite to refer to who is not invited, on an invitation. The rehearsal dinner is a small group, usually close family and wedding party. Simply talk with anyone where it might be an issue. Don't broadcast it to everyone on an invitation. Deal with people's personal family issues, personally and privately, not in and invitation or memo or notice. It is seen as more gracious, better manners. As for showers, the shower hostesses should do the same.