Hello! I am getting married this summer and will be having my shower in May. My future husband and I are struggling to add things to our registry. I suggested adding registries where people can put money towards our honeymoon but FH felt this might be tacky. We have been living in our home since March and bought everything new so there isn’t much we need to replace. I have about 30 people coming and want to atleast find 2 gifts per person. Any ideas, suggestions on things you loved? Maybe unexpected favorites?
What about a new comforter set? A new pot/pan set? You could also add any kitchen appliances that you don't have yet. If you want to do a cash registry I would suggest using a site like ZOLA for the registry.
If you have anything kitchen/bedroom/gadget wise that could use upgrading, I would suggest that. My FH and I have been together almost 7 years, so we have everything, but we put things on our registry that are upgrades from what we currently own. We also added things we've always wanted, but couldn't justify in buying (ex. nice knife block & set, nice kitchen gadgets, high quality ben linens, air purifier)
You can also add board games, things that pertain to hobbies or something you both like to do! Our friends are outdoorsy, so they had nice camping chairs and camping equipment on theirs!
My FH and I were the same way about cash funds on a registry. But so many couples are including one nowadays that it's pretty much normal now (at least in our friend/family group it is).
Even if you were to do a honeymoon fund, people that want to give a gift would just buy random things if you don't have a registry. One thing my friends have that I forgot to register for is a towel warmer. It keep their towels warm while they get a shower and then they can dry off with a nice warm towel. I wish I had remembered to put one on our registry because it sounds amazing.
I agree with your FH that cash registries aren’t appropriate, especially for a shower. The purpose of a shower is to “shower” the bride or the couple with gifts. We had owned our home for two years at the time of our shower, so we registered for upgrades to small appliances like our toaster and coffee pot. We also registered for seasonal items like different colored hand towels for each season/holiday and outdoor items like camping supplies.
My fiancé and I have some not typical registry items such as games, tools for fixing up our house, and an air purifier. You could also think about putting furniture on your registry. We are registered at Target and they allow group gifting for any items over $100. So that way the guests know what their money is going toward. I have also seen couples do a date night registry and only ask for gift cards to their favorite restaurants.
Instead of a honeyfund, you can do things like airline gift cards, airbnb gift cards, etc. or things that you can use for your honeymoon like a new luggage set, etc. so things people can actually buy for you for your honeymoon.
Honeymoon registries such as Honeyfund are great for the actual wedding, but very inappropriate for a shower. You'll most likely need to register for physical gifts for your shower. My favorite gift I received at my shower was a le creuset dutch oven. It was expensive and 4 guests went in on it together. I'd recommend adding one of those if you don't have one already.
Registering for money is never acceptable. Many people do not give cash for any occasion, period. But you never ask for it. Many view honeymoon registries the same way. They will gift you standard household items from Target or Macy's and it may be something you don't want and can't return. Go easy with your guests and set up a registry at Bed Bath and Beyond (they have a list as a guideline). If you don't want household stuff, register for hobby type things: camping/grilling, board/card games, something you would like but would not buy yourself.
Have a range of prices from $5 on up to accommodate all budgets. Don't assume every person will purchase 2 gifts.
Are there any decor items you might still want for your new home? Small appliances that might need upgrading that were over looked in the move, vacuum, blender, food processor, crockpot/Instapot. Cool gadgets for the kitchen, cocktail supplies like a shaker and jigger, I got a garlic chopped and I love it! nice knives? We got a second blanket/comforter and honestly we don’t know how we lived with only one. We also upgraded our shower head which we had been wanting to do for a while. Games or hobby items, kayaks, fishing gear, bikes etc. tools for around the house. If you honestly can’t think of anything you need you should decline a shower. You could do a luncheon instead of you still wanted to get together.
We did Amazon and in addition to the normal items we added Southwest gift cards at $100 and $200, Visa giftcards $50 - $100, Amazon giftcards at $25, added some new sports chairs, some patio furniture, and a nice combo coat rack. I think things for the future is good. We also added a few couples games. I don't think the gift card route is bad. Some people like something easy that they don't have to think much about and that's a giftcard. You can use them for dates or whatever you want later! Try and look around your home and see if there's anything fun that you might want to add. Like is the whole house completely furnished? Accent mirrors, wedding picture frames, a nice wicker basket for all your couch throw blankets possibly. Good luck!
I would recommend upgrading items - bed sheets, towels, pillows, dishes, utensils, all of that kind of stuff.