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Registry funds. i know they’re tacky but...

Meredith, on October 30, 2019 at 12:58 AM Posted in Registry 0 11

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Up until now I’ve thought registry funds are pretty tacky since you’re just straight up asking your guests for money, but FH and I can’t think of any alternatives. We are both in the military so we won’t be able to get a house until after marriage. We are also having a “destination wedding” in TN because it’s halfway in between our families so we will be flying in and won’t have a lot of space to carry things back with us. With that being said, the things we will really need like basic furniture are expensive and it’s seems silly to ask for home goods when we don’t even have a bed/dining table/sofa/etc. We are also paying for our own wedding so saving up for all of it will be doable but not ideal. Can y’all think of any options for us that would help us get on our feet or would a registry fund be acceptable in our situation?

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Latest activity by Diz, on December 5, 2019 at 11:59 PM

Devoted October 2019
Summer · on October 30, 2019 at 1:41 AM
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We said we weren't asking for any gifts if people asked. We didn't make public registries either (we made one at Target because what ever you put on it you get 20% off on whatever you have left after you get married) and if someone insisted on giving us something we told them that if we were to receive money we will be putting it into our savings for our house.
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Champion October 2009
2d Bride · on October 30, 2019 at 1:51 AM
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Just don't register. If anyone asks, say that you aren't able to get physical gifts back from the wedding anyway. At that point, they'll give you cash or checks, and you won't have the administrative expenses of a registry fund taken out of them.
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Master July 2019
Hannah · on October 30, 2019 at 7:09 AM
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What 2d Bride said. If you don't register and people want to give you a gift, it will almost always be cash (you may have the random person or 2 who just decides to get you a gift). Even with a registry, I got registry gifts for my shower and then peoppe gave cash/checks at the wedding. Only 1 couple out of a 110 person wedding brought a gift to the wedding.
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Master February 2020
Amber · on October 30, 2019 at 8:04 AM
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Agree with 2d bride. If you don't have a registry, people will take the hint to give you money if they're feeling generous.
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Alex · on October 30, 2019 at 9:17 AM
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I do not think registry funds are tacky! If you want to do a money fund go for it!

If that makes you uncomfortable, I know there are some registries where you can by part of a more expensive product (like a bed). That may be an option.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on October 30, 2019 at 12:26 PM
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I just wouldn't register and people will gift cash. Then you don't have to worry about people thinking it's tacky or paying the website fees.
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Lady · on October 30, 2019 at 1:46 PM
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Just don't register. People will give you cash or checks. They don't need to be told those are good gifts with tacky cash registries.
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VIP September 2020
Willow · on October 30, 2019 at 2:54 PM
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I just received a link to a cash registry, and it visually looks tacky. And the way it was worded is tacky.

You might want to put an FAQ on your website that says, "Where are we registered? We are not requesting physical gifts. We will be traveling by plane(?) after the wedding and will have very little space. (Or,) We have very limited space in our apartment; we are saving for a new home.) Your presence is our present."
Hopefully people get the hint.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on October 31, 2019 at 1:10 PM
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We did a honeymoon fund and honestly we just got a lot more cash than anything really
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Dedicated May 2021
Chanieish · on November 1, 2019 at 11:25 PM
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We are doing a newlywed fund as well. The last 5 weddings I’ve gone to had one and I was happy to contribute money to their new life together.
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