Emily
Savvy October 2019

Registry- are personal items tacky?

Emily, on May 15, 2019 at 5:24 PM Posted in Registry
Specifically referring to luggage. I’ve read on here and elsewhere that registering for luggage is practical and fine, but isn’t it considered a “personal item” if it’s just luggage for me? My fiancé seems kind of uninterested in luggage and I travel a bit more anyway, but is it weird to just register for luggage for myself? It would be obviously for me because the one I want is pink... and girly. Lol. I just don’t want to be tacky! And I’ve also read you shouldn’t register for “personal” stuff that would clearly be used for only one of you.. help please! P.S. there will be other things on the registry too, for our house. We’ve lived together for 3.5 yrs but can still think of some home items we want
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  • Caytlyn
    Master November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
    Registering for luggage is fine. Just because it’s pink doesn’t mean it’s yours or that your guests should assume it’s only for you. I’m certain a pink suitcase can carry men’s clothing just as well as women’s.
  • Destiny
    Super May 2020
    Destiny ·
    I have a set for me and a set for fh, but with it just being you if someone asks tell them you pack for the both of you or that he already has a set
  • Jessica
    Super October 2019
    Jessica ·
    I think it's perfectly fine! we're putting luggage on as well and a few things that could be considered personal.
  • Vanessasaurus
    Rockstar June 2019
    Vanessasaurus ·
    I wouldn’t think anything of it! It is usually fairly obvious 90 percent on the things on registries are usually put on there by the female. I don’t think anything of it!
  • S
    Savvy May 2020
    Sandy ·
    If they find it tacky, they just won’t purchase it for you. Someone else might! Silly to not be able to add things you want or need because of someone else’s opinion.
  • Emily
    Savvy October 2019
    Emily ·
    Okay thank you everyone!!
  • Rae
    Devoted July 2019
    Rae ·
    Luggage is pretty normal. Most people assume it’s for the honeymoon. There were a few personal items I felt funny about adding so instead I registered for more typical items that I could convert to credit and buy what I really wanted. I registered with Zola and it’s been really easy to just exchange things pre shipment.
  • Courtney
    VIP December 2019
    Courtney ·

    We registered for luggage too, color doesn't matter. When we registered we allowed ourselves one item. I picked a book... my fiancé chose a $1000 TV hahaha.

  • Mandi
    Super March 2020
    Mandi ·
    Luggage is fine. I think it's more of a dont register for pajamas that obviously one person would wear or something like that.
    We are registered for cookware and I sure as heck cant cook.
  • Emily
    Savvy October 2019
    Emily ·
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    SAME hahaha. All the kitchen stuff is for my fiancé basically lol. Good point
  • Emily
    Savvy October 2019
    Emily ·
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    Lol!! Now there’s an idea!
  • N
    Expert July 2019
    Natalie ·
    I think that’s fine we registered for a weekender bag one that is grey and brown leather (can be used for FH or me) and another one is more like a huge purse that’s is white and blue stripes with brown leather that is pretty obvious it’s for me. We like to go on monthly weekend getaways so we thought that was perfect. We also registered for other stuff that is obvious for 1 person like hiking shoes (we love to go hiking) but we normally added 2 items when it was more “personal” items (one for him, one for me). We also only have 1 registry so I’m adding some things that are meant for me only Incase people from the bridal shower have a hard time finding things that I like there’s a few extra things on there they can get.
  • Courtney
    VIP December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    I told him no one will buy that haha.

  • Mandi
    Super March 2020
    Mandi ·
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    Mine registered for a PS VR. Maybe he'll get it, maybe the completion discount will work on it. 🤷‍♀️
  • Maggie
    Expert April 2020
    Maggie ·
    That should be fine! Express that though you may use it more, it is for both of you. A lot of people request luggage for their honeymoon and it shouldn’t become a no-no just because one of you already has it
  • Melissa
    Super September 2019
    Melissa ·
    Registering for luggage is perfectly acceptable. I always get luggage in colors other than black so it is easier to spot at the baggage carousel. It doesn’t matter if you will be the one primarily using it.
  • Justine
    Dedicated August 2019
    Justine ·
    At first I was worried about some items coming across as tacky but I realized it's more about what you actually want.
  • Gen
    Rockstar June 2019
    Gen ·

    I think that is perfectly fine! FH and I both needed new luggage so we each chose suitcases that we wanted... his is red, mine is purple lol. We registered for both! I think it's fine to register for things that only one of you will use... ie we are attending a wedding where I noticed a bartending set and a wine rack on their registry, and although that isn't particularly "gendered," I know for a fact that the groom doesn't drink, but I don't think that means they can't register for those things for her.

    Once you are married, most people share money to an extent (not that you necessarily share ALL your money, but finances are definitely intertwined) so like, getting you guys a present, even if it is something only YOU will use, is still saving both of you money that would otherwise have to be spent on your new luggage. Does that make sense...?

  • Martelle
    Devoted July 2019
    Martelle ·

    Me and fiance asked for weekend bags...and we got what we wanted. They weren't crazy expensive.

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