Remmie
Beginner October 2019

Recovery from wedding demands

Remmie, on November 5, 2019 at 8:03 PM Posted in Married Life 0 8
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We were married last week and so many things went wrong including a bunch of hotel rooms that were never canceled and we ended up having to cover $2500 for ones never used Smiley sad
Several things went wrong and even though the wedding was beautiful and I married my man of my dreams we are struggling to overcome all the debt from the wedding. We had no one monitoring how things were going out and being spent even though we hired someone to do it.. lots of shortcomings. How do we not let this start our marriage off stressful and frustrating? He jeeps saying we will be okay but I know he’s just trying to keep me calm. On top of everything my son was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes a few days before the wedding so I was in the hospital with him al the way up to day of rehearsal and had to leave people in charge and it didn’t work. Decorating my own venue until 4:30 am with my son sleeping on a couch the night before did not go to rehearsal dinner and had zero sleep. To go back at it at 7am and was expected to start getting ready at 9am... I was sick all day and sleep deprived. No one took care of us at the wedding we got our own plates and drinks ..I love him dearly so I would never regret the day but it takes everything I have not to cry when I think about it, and now the debt to cover all the expenses for mediocrity service 😢 any advice is appreciated 🙏🏼

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    Devoted September 2019
    McKenzie ·
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    I personally am a planner, and would find the most calm in having a plan to pay off the debt. Schedule a time to sit down when it's just you two, and budget out your payments and how you can reduce costs in other areas. After you have a plan in place, try to relax and not think about it, focus on your marriage and the fact that while this is stressful, at least you have a partner in it.

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  • Remmie
    Beginner October 2019
    Remmie ·
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    Thank you I think that’s the direction I was headed in and I appreciate you taking the time to respond I’m feeling very al over 🤷🏻‍♀️
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  • Cherry
    Expert February 2020
    Cherry Online ·
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    You hit the nail on the head. This was exactly what I was thinking.


    Remmie, I'm sorry this happened to you. Regretting it will just make you miserable, though. Trust in your partner in crime when he says you'll be OK. Let him support you through this and also you be the support he needs. You're partners for life now. Tackling big problems together will be par for the course. And eventually you'll be so good at taking care of fiascos they'll barely make a ripple. You'll be warriors together, starting now! I think hat's something to celebrate!

    Good luck getting it sorted. ❤
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  • Melle
    Champion June 2019
    Melle Online ·
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    I love what PP said about paying off debt plans. I am in finance and paying off debt is something I personally plan for. I've a friend who also went into debt for his wedding and although I don't agree with that type of planning, it happens, and you gotta move on with it. So make a plan for what you can afford after all your set bills to pay off the debt in x amount of time. There's no chart that'll be helpful because we don't know your bills and needs. So you have to think of yourself what're the recurring bills you have that have to be paid monthly and then add on incidentals in case to give yourself some sort of room for error or just in case. And then what's leftover, just dump it into the debt.
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  • Remmie
    Beginner October 2019
    Remmie ·
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    Thank you 😊
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    Devoted May 2020
    Alex ·
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    I highly recommend Dave Ramey and his Total Money Makeover. It gives you a step by step plan to get out of debt and build wealth!

    https://www.daveramsey.com/

    Also, family is always first. Take care of your son in this hard time for him and relishing in you new husband and how lucky you are to have this family.


    Best of luck!

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  • Shenell
    Dedicated October 2019
    Shenell ·
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    Sorry you’re going through this. I had similar last minute issues that happened and we racked up about 2000 dollars in “wedding debt” I transferred all the debt from the multiple credit cards to a new interest free credit card for 21 months. Paying 99 dollars a month will not break the bank for me and the hubby...and it will be paid off before interest kicks in. I do not use my credit cards often so there’s no temptation. Hope this helps.
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  • EmAbrams
    Devoted August 2019
    EmAbrams ·
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    I second Dave Ramsey. My husband and I did his program before we got married (even though we didn't live together) and we started our marriage off debt free!

    It really is an amazing program and he is funny too Smiley smile Good luck with everything. It does sound like your husband has a good head on his shoulders, trust him to lead you.

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