Potluck for Bachelorette Party?

...wooooooow

But seriously go for it. I would be all for attending a potluck BBQ. Sounds super fun

I think a potluck sounds fun. Anyone who doesn't want to cook can buy something pre-made (veggies and hummus, chips and dip, fruit platter, food from the pre-made section of a grocery store, take-out from a restaurant or bakery, etc.). If for any reason you didn't want to do the potluck, you could also get some type of cheap food like a few pizzas.

It's considerate of you to pick something that everyone can afford. If not everyone can afford the fancy dinner, some of your friends might either have to decline and feel excluded or might attend but then be resentful at spending more than they can afford. I would ignore that person's comments.

Yes. I would be less likely to attend. I hate potlucks even at work. If I'm attending an event, it should be properly hosted . If I were IN the bridal party I'd be happy to pitch in $$$ for food/catering but as a guest, I'd find it odd to be asked to bring something

I just really really hate potlucks

Assuming it's just your BP and close friends, I would love a bach potluck.

It doesn't seem like she's trying to be malicious. It stinks that you might not get the kind of party you want, but that's something that you have to deal with when parties are being thrown in your honor. You can tell them your opinion and hope that they take it into consideration, but at the end of the day, the hostess is the one making the choices. If you are truly worried about it, you can politely decline her offer to throw you a party.