Post wedding

I'm so sorry to hear this. Post-wedding blues are certainly a thing, and there have been multiple brides with this same issue on this forum; so rest assured you are not alone. Oftentimes, the "blues" are triggered by no longer having this happy, exciting event to plan. Do you think you just miss the exciting planning stage taking up your free time, and giving you something to look forward to? If not, and if you think it's being caused by your wedding not being about you and your husband, maybe you could plan a do-over! You could rent a beautiful airbnb somewhere the two of you have always wanted to go, and renew your vows in a romantic, private ceremony - just the 2 of you. You could even hire a photographer to document the occasion. Make a long, romantic weekend about just the 2 of you.

You don't list the details of what your self-involved family members did on your wedding day, but it sounds like you're very upset with them for ignoring you. But honestly, by the way you describe yourself as the martyr, your family members only know this type of relationship with you and therefore, don't know how to respect you better. So set the tone now. Instead of keeping your feelings bottled up, confront them. Tell them how you were displeased about the day and that moving forward you will not baby them anymore. Then follow-up with a happy life prioritizing your new spouse and yourself. By the way, I'm very happy your partner's family celebrated you. You can learn from them a healthier family dynamic with boundaries. Congratulations on your marriage.