Post Wedding Depression?

Date twin! I FEEL THE SAME WAY. I thought I was the only one.

I think there's a huge letdown after all the thought and care you've been putting into it for so long. i felt that way too--we'd also had a lot of life happening around us before the wedding (moving, selling our old house, both of us changing jobs) so it was just this wild whirlwind, and suddenly it was all over! i think a lot of life milestones come with this kind of letdown/sadness feeling...one thing i've found helpful is to look forward to new projects, both things we're working on as a couple and things we do separately. if you're finding you have a lot of spare time, think about picking up a new hobby. make plans with your spouse and your family--trips you want to take, parties you want to host, things you want to learn together.

I was very sad after our wedding. I'm good now, but it was a hard couple of weeks after the wedding for me.

I fell into a really deep depression in the first month or so after our wedding. Part of it is that I have some mental health issues anyway (bipolar disorder), and so highly emotional events, like a wedding, impact me a lot. I was also changing meds at the same time. We only moved in together about a month before we got married, and so we both had a lot of adjusting to do.

Things have gotten a lot better in the past few months. I found a job, which helped, and we're moving to a bigger place next week which has my attention consumed at the moment. I find that keeping busy in general helps.

Honestly I can’t relate to this. I did not enjoy wedding planning and after 12 years I was just ready to be married. I don’t think the way you’re feeling is unusual or means anything more than that you lost a very important hobby!

Just try focus on all the money you aren’t spending anymore, and enjoy being married! I’m sure this will pass.

FH is concerned that I will also have this just because I've spent so much time and effort. Hopefully the holidays will divert my attention.

Find something else as a hobby or something that strickes your fancy. It might help divert your attention.

You are not alone. Both my sisters felt the same after their weddings so I'm already preparing. Try finding a new hobby or project that will help cheer you up and keep you busy.

I've noticed that wedding planning has been therapeutic for me since I am a very creative person. A lot of my pre-existing depression and anxiety seems to be controlled by it. Perhaps taking up a similar hobby or doing wedding planning part time could be a good coping mechanism for you!

It’s like any big event, after all the build up there is bound to be a feeling of deflation after it’s all over. It soon passes though. Think of all the extra money and time you have now. Expendable income! Remember having that?! ;-)

I think this is totally normal. You've put a lot of time and energy into planning your wedding and once it's over, there's a void that needs to be filled, time you would normally have spend planning. I'm not married yet but considering I felt this way briefly after getting engaged, I'm expecting a little post-wedding depression. You'll get thru this!

I got down for awhile after my wedding also. I think that you're on such a natural high through all the planning and the event and honeymoon, that when you come back down to reality, afterwards, it's a blow to your system. Just know that you're not the only one that's felt that way & pick up another hobby or something to occupy your mind with!

I haven't gotten married yet but in one of the books I read, the author talked about how that is a very common feeling after everything is done. You've poured so much time and energy and emotion into such an intense experience and then it all happened all at once. Practicing good self-care is always helpful. That depends on your personality type but if you're an extrovert, spend some time talking and reconnecting with good friends. Or if you're an introvert perhaps journaling or writing out how you're feeling can be very helpful. Also make sure your health is being taken care of. Drinking lots of water, getting enough greens and fruits, exercise multiple times a week, go for a walk in the fresh air. Taking care of your health will help to ease the normal mourning period. It's totally ok to feel depressed after a wedding. That probably means you had a really wonderful wedding, which is so awesome. You will be ok but you can be proactive about getting yourself back to good health. You're worth it.

View Quoted Comment You’re so right!!!!!!!! I got married Dec 1st and I’ve got the post wedding depression! Getting married around the holidays doesn’t help either. I’m in a rut and I hope it ends soon! Back on my diet again this week!!! I haven’t even gotten the thank you’s our yet, they’re addressed though! The past 2 weeks have been really tough for me. I just need a break from all of the parties and gatherings and food! I need to just chill out with my hubby! Doesn’t help that we didn’t fatale our honeymoon yet, not til Feb! We did have the most beautiful wedding! And yes packing it all away or donating items made is hard to do after all of the time put in planning it all!

I know that how you're feeling is really normal because a lot of other people posted about it when I used to check the discussions here daily during my engagement.. but I can't relate because all that I have felt since we got married (other than happiness) is relieved, lol. We paid for like 90-95% of our wedding ourselves and the amount of extra money we have to save for ym schooling, buying a house, and going out/having fun went up significantly. I feel like we haven't had a chance to enjoy anything because he got a new job in his career during the planning and all the new money went to the wedding for a year and a half. I will say though that I really do miss picking out everything together. One of the most romantic things we have done and I will always remember all of the appointments together.

View Quoted Comment Definitely felt relieved as well!!! I feel better though. Even guys have heard that post wedding every emotion comes out of the bride and it’s real!!! Congratulations though! And yes, I’m very happy and excited for my new life with my hubby!!

This is normal. I been married almost 5 years and our first 2 years I was depressed and quit unhappy. Im still adjusting to know Im married!!!