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Stephjames21
Just Said Yes November 2022

Post wedding depression or something else?

Stephjames21, on May 23, 2023 at 12:32 PM Posted in Married Life 0 8
Hi everyone,


I’m a newlywed, recently married 6 months ago.
I’ve been dealing with unsettling emotions that started at my honeymoon, lasted a couple weeks, went away for months, and came back randomly 4-5 days ago. I don’t know how to explain it. The emotions that go through my head are 1. “wow I’m going to be with this person forever”. 2. My life is going so perfect, am I bored? 3. Was just the excitement of getting married blocking some deeper subconscious feelings? 4. My partner gained weight after getting married, is that turning me off? 5. We live in a tiny condo and he works from home and I only work 3 days a week, are we too together?
I think I’m depressed or
I think the problem is this.
After getting married, these emotions started. We are currently home shopping, and a home that we loved and made an offer on got rejected. So there was yet another exciting event in my life that ended. Boom, these emotions came back.
A couple days ago, before these emotions started up again, I was on cloud 9. I LOVE being married. I could not imagine someone else as my husband. However I don’t know what this is? These thoughts flood my brain to a point I slept all day yesterday just to avoid it. So maybe I am depressed?
As you can see I’m very confused. Please share your thoughts?

8 Comments

Latest activity by Stephjames21, on May 24, 2023 at 8:42 AM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    If you're sleeping all day just to avoid your thoughts/feelings, I'd seriously look into counseling.
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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
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    I agree with the previous poster. This definitely calls for the help of a professional. I would look into a counselor/therapist who can help you uncover what’s going on and provide tools with how to cope/navigate through it
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  • Stephjames21
    Just Said Yes November 2022
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    I agree, but I’m wondering if someone else here has any insight to what they think this could be?
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  • Shannon
    Super July 2022
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    I felt a bit sad and didn’t know what to do with myself after wedding planning. It was such a constant for so many months with keeling busy. Then, what?
    Sounds like you’re stuck inside a small space with your husband. Change things up. Try getting out for errands and walks. Meet up with friends or family if you can. Listen to music.


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  • Stephjames21
    Just Said Yes November 2022
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    That could be it too, outside of work I don’t have many friends that I talk to and it’s just him. I think I’m getting into a rut.
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  • LM
    Expert December 2022
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    I wonder if you felt the wedding was the apex of your life and that's why you're disappointed your housing situation isn't yet settled and you're conflicted with your husband's image changing. A counselor can help you with your triggers and find courage to face an uncertain future. As per #3, if you didn't have doubts before or during your engagement, I don't think it's a relationship issue. Don't worry, many couples have difficulty in their first married year, even when they already live together. Marriage is a big transition.

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  • Alyssa
    Dedicated September 2024
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    I did a little research on “post wedding blues/depression” and thought I would share the articles with you. I have not gotten married yet, so I can not personally say I have experienced something like this. I don’t know if you have read about it at all or looked into anything. I suggest counseling as well if the symptoms don’t go away again or worsen. Have you talked to your partner about any of your thoughts? Sometimes I like to just write any negative thoughts all down (type them out on my notes app) just to at least get them out and I usually feel a little better. Or to distract myself I find something to do. I start playing video games or clean my apt. I really hope you can get through this.


    Here are some links:
    https://psychcentral.com/depression/post-wedding-depression#post-wedding-blues-vs-depression

    https://www.theknot.com/content/post-wedding-blues-tips-for-dealing
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  • Stephjames21
    Just Said Yes November 2022
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    Thank you for the articles. I think I’m falling under the “situational grief” and projecting my feelings on to him. No I have not talked to him about it because I don’t even know how to truly explain how I feel
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