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Post wedding blues?

Maddie, on September 22, 2020 at 11:29 PM Posted in Married Life 0 10

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so, august 21st, 2020 was the best day of my life. i finally got to marry the love of my life after being together for 7 years. we’d been planning for over 2 years and actually were supposed to get married in april but due to covid had to post pone. our wedding day was amazing and perfect even with all the craziness, i was so happy. i felt so happy for weeks after and then all of a sudden recently i’ve been super down. unexplained sadness, emptiness and i’m easily annoyed as well. my husband is perfect and i’m absolutely head over heels for him, so i know it’s not doubts about our marriage. i’ve looked into it and i think it is post wedding blues. i think i went from such a high from the best days of my life filled with so much happiness and our loved ones to just normal life. my life was consumed with wedding planning for 2 years and now it’s just done. i’m happy it’s over bc it was stressful, but i think part of me is sad that part of my life is in the past. has anyone else who’s married experienced this? and if so any advice on how to get out of it? if it last too much longer i’m going to see a therapist, but for now i’m thinking it’s post wedding blues and should hopefully pass. sorry this is super long and thank you to whoever has read this whole thing 🤍

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Latest activity by Stephanie, on October 30, 2020 at 9:45 PM

Legend June 2019
Melle · on September 23, 2020 at 12:03 AM
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Ah I totally got post wedding blues. I think having a new project or goal or thing to focus on after is helpful
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on September 23, 2020 at 12:28 AM
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For the first six months after our wedding & local reception I felt like I had been released from wedding planning prison! 🤪 But about a year later I missed it. I did have a part-time job in a bridal shop last year and I loved it! Are you interested in working in the industry? Or helping a friend with planning? My brother-in-law got engaged this summer and I’m helping her plan a few things (mostly listen & share a few ideas). So fun and waaaay less stress than planning my own.
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Dedicated November 2020
Jr · on September 23, 2020 at 1:40 AM
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Your wedding was a project, a hobby and now its over...
Find a new way to occupy your time and u will be fine! Good luck
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Rebecca · on September 23, 2020 at 3:13 AM
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Totally normal, if annoying!
In theatre, we call them post-show blues, and a wedding is a lot like a show!
Heck, DH and I even got into a couple of rip-roaring fights, because we no longer had a shared focus, and had to recalibrate what we did on our off time!
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Master October 2020
Yasmine · on September 23, 2020 at 5:19 AM
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Congratulations to you two! ❤️
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Meghan · on September 23, 2020 at 7:41 AM
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I was pretty sad when my wedding was over and I didn’t have things to plan. I’d say it’s fairly normal. I’ve found it helps to stay active on Wedding Wire giving advice to future brides.
This will eventually pass and you will find new things to look forward to and plan.
Congratulations on your marriage and your photo is beautiful!
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Devoted November 2017
Rea · on September 23, 2020 at 7:49 AM
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Like Pirates said, it was like wedding planning prison...lol. I enjoyed planning but was super glad it when it was over. I still come here to read about others planning and offer input if I feel it would help. now that you are finished and to help get thru those blues, stay a ww member and help other btb with advice. Just a suggestion ☺️
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John Smith · on September 23, 2020 at 8:24 AM
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I had a really hard crash starting the very next day. Ten months of planning, anxiety, Unknowns, re-planning, stress, and then the day was over in the blink of an eye. I think I had been running on sheer adrenaline for so long that I didn’t know how to cope without it. Jumping back into work and shifting my focus back towards my career and hobbies has helped a lot. I wasn’t one who enjoyed planning my wedding, so I was surprised that I didn’t get that “free from wedding planning jail” feeling. I just felt down and sad I guess. But it’s been a month since the wedding and I’m feeling better now I don’t feel that it was the best day of my life, but it was definitely a nice day. Im looking forward to a lot more nice days as well.
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VIP August 2020
Katie · on September 23, 2020 at 8:46 AM
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Hi Maddie! Your photo is gorgeous by the way 🥰 love all the suggestions and agree with all! Fall and winter brides will really need our encouragement and covid suggestions right now as we are the only ones who have gone through it, so agree to continue on ww 👍 For me, I’m a bit down because of the seasons changing and such, so this may be a factor contributing to the blues. A project I’m currently working on to stay busy is Christmas shopping early and talking to family about how the holidays will play out this year. When your wedding photos roll in, making wedding albums for your family may help too. You are smart to reach out and talk about it, as sadly many keep it inside and that’s not healthy for them. Hope this helps!! ❤️❤️❤️
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Stephanie · on October 30, 2020 at 9:45 PM
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I feel this 100%. We got married on September 19th after planning for a little over 3 years. I thought I was just feeling depressed because of covid and stuff but I realized that I keep thinking about our wedding and wishing we could just go back and enjoy the day again because it was so great. I googled post wedding depression because I didn’t know if it was a thing...and apparently it is! it’s definitely nice to know that I’m not alone in feeling this way. Hang in there! ❤️ I’m hoping we’ll get all of our photos back soon and that might help
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