Post Wedding Blues - Sending Out an S.o.s

Have you talked with your husband about this? Sometimes talking it out makes things a bit easier to swallow.

Maybe try making plans with friends and family in town for when you get back from the honeymoon. Host a small casual bbq, or a movie night with family. It won't recreate the wedding but it will get you more time with your loved ones!

I hope you're able to look back on your wedding day with happiness. If these feelings continue, I'd seek some professional assistance after the honeymoon.

Hi Liz! I’m so sorry that you are feeling this way. Have you spoken to your spouse about the way you are feeling?

I’m so happy that you had such a wonderful wedding day, even though it didn’t feel long enough! I’m sure that your guests had a great time and totally understand that you were taking your photos during the time you weren’t mingling with them.

As you will be waiting for your professional photos to come back, perhaps you could ask your guests to send you some snaps that they got on their phones for you to enjoy. You will then be able to see the wonderful time that they all had and even see some moments that happened among them.

I hope that you have a magical honeymoon, celebrating your marriage. Where are you going?

View Quoted Comment Thank you! My photographer did send me a few sneak peeks already and they are gorgeous. We are going to Highlands, North Carolina! Thanks again for your kind words. I am going to talk to my husband about my feelings today.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much. I am going to tell my husband my feelings today. I have been so hesitant to because he has been on cloud 9 and I dont want to bring him down. Making plans with family once we get back sounds like a fantastic idea. Thanks again

I also had deep “there wasn’t enough time!!!” feelings immediately after the wedding. But it does go away. Nowadays that’s not how I remember my wedding at all, and I have all the happy moments to focus on. Talking to attendees who raved about how much fun they had and how wonderful everything was also helped reorient my perspective as it really makes all the hard work and planning feel worth while. The “not enough time!!” feeling passed and now mostly look back on the wedding with immense pride that it was such a success.

I know I’m not much help for in this specific moment — but : time WILL help.

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I hope that going on honeymoon and celebrating with your husband will help you feel better

Post wedding blues is REAL and you should not beat yourself up for it. The way I described it for myself was like an emotional sugar crash. You spend basically your entire life dreaming about your hypothetical wedding, then you spend so much time planning the wedding once you're engaged, then you have the most wonderful day of your life, and then after all that, you wake up the next morning and it's just 100% OVER. I actually think it would be weird if you DIDNT feel somewhat sad or let down!

The thing is, no matter what you did at your wedding, you are going to feel like you missed out on something or like you didn't do something, in one capacity or another. If you hadn't done those portraits and had spent more time with your guests, you'd probably be regretting not having the photos. Everyone always says your wedding day goes by so quickly but that's really just because there isn't possibly enough time in the day to do everything you're going to want to do. It sounds like you had a great balance of photo taking and enjoying the moment with your guests.

My best advice for post wedding blues honestly, is let yourself be sad. I know that sounds stupid lol, and I mean, don't let it ruin your life or anything haha, but it's so so normal to feel a little let down after having the biggest/most exciting day of your life. Just remember you aren't alone and this feeling will pass in a few months at the most. And try to remember how badly you wanted to be married and appreciate your time with your new husband!